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The best guy friend?

DeeElle posted this thread...
Jun. 8, 2013 at 12:40 am

This is the first time for me asking online, personal questions. Well, I don't even know if you can count this as a question, more just me being unsure of how to continue on; so, I would appreiciate all the help and advice anyone will offer up!
I should start with that I have know this guy for the past 6 years (and liked him for more than I care to admit!). At first we were just friends and I grew to know him more and more. Now, I consider him to be my closest friend. He's proably the kindest, smartest, most considerate and ambitious guy I have ever met. We haven't ever really talked about dating in general--not even other people dating. I really have very strong feelings for him and I don't think he knows, and I don't know if he likes me--or anyone else for that matter. There's lots of girls I know who like him too, but I don't think it's like I do. I am EXTREMELY shy when it comes to this kind of thing. I want to be with him, but most of all, I don't want to lose him. If I ever did, I don't know what I would do! I have no one else who I really can trust to turn to. Please help.

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SammieCx replied...
Jun. 8, 2013 at 1:54 am

I would just continue being his friend for now. It sounds like you guys have a really close friendship and that would be really hard to lose. Maybe some day in the future you guys end up together but if not thats okay too. Everything happens for a reason so if it's meant to be then it will but if not, don't worry about it. There will always be some other guy. Hope I helped :)

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CTS207 replied...
Jun. 8, 2013 at 1:29 pm

There are of course subtle ways to 'test the waters' so to speak to see if he's interested. One way is to passively mention anything that has to deal with relationships or dating. Depending upon his reaction (I.E what he says, how he says it and his bodily movements and facial expression) can suggest anything from interest to remote interest to discussing the topic. If he shows interest then press forward with a remote question that still has to deal with dating or relationships. It can be hypothetical or slightly direct. For my guess is that he is equally shy about this sort of thing and that he may have the same fear of losing you. Good luck

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DeeElle replied...
Jun. 8, 2013 at 11:05 pm

Thanks for the input guys! It helps a lot and gives me a lot to think about.

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JRBs_Girl replied...
Jun. 9, 2013 at 11:29 pm

I would have to agree with sammie..Its best to stay friends for now...He may have feeling for you too but the just be friends...play ot safe cuz trust me my close friend told me he liked me and it was odd as hell....so just stay friends for now..dont rush it let time take its coruse

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zander101 replied...
Jun. 13, 2013 at 2:16 pm

hey umm checkin this out for you.
k how old are you for one?
also having a great friend id waaaay more inpotant than a BF or GF its a lie that you need one.
actualy waiting till late high school early college is kinda cool, i hate what i ran into dating and im still dealing with it,
its better, and if at some point you want to go after this guy, honesty is the best policy.
if your shy then its okay he can deal with it;
best of luck!

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DeeElle replied...
Jun. 13, 2013 at 11:58 pm

I am in high school. Honestly, I have been strongly against dating until recently for reasons that I don't really want to go into. But it has been the slight change in heart that has made it harder to decide. Thanks for the input--it's really helpful!

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N@talie replied...
Jun. 16, 2013 at 1:58 am

I know exactly what you mean. Wait it out a little bit to see if it's true, you don't want to throw anything to the wind if it 's just a phase. At one point, in a late at night discussion, bring up romance and such, the start talking about you, ask about him, and ask who he's liked in the past. If he likes you back, he'll say he liked you at one point. Because it's impossible to be friends with the opposite gender and not fall in love with them at one point or another. Hope this helps.

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FruityLoop replied...
Jun. 16, 2013 at 7:23 pm

I agree with what everyone has said so far. I would test the waters just a little by bringing dating and such during a late night conversation bring it up casually see what he says. Find out if hes interested in dating and what he wants in a relationship though that might be a little too much for a casually late night chitchat. Ya never know he may express mutual feelings too.

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WriterHead replied...
Jun. 21, 2013 at 3:13 pm

i know how you feel, trust me!!!!!!!! I'm a shy person as well, so sometimes writing things down rather than saying them helps me. maybe u should try writing him a letter if you're too shy to tell him to his face. :)

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AzizaMay replied...
Jun. 30, 2013 at 6:28 pm

What I do in that kind of situatuion is when I'm with the person I really like and I'm too embarrassed to say anything I text it to them and watch thier facial expression.

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