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nerdycountrygirl posted this thread...
May 24, 2013 at 10:57 am

If any of you read my previous posts, that one nice guy from work stopped seeming interested, and I asked R about if prom was a date, and he said that he doesn't want to do dating now. We're still really good friends and all, and I'm totally cool with it ^_^. However, as I got closer to R I also got closer to his brother, and I gradually discovered that I really care about him.
After I convinced him to come to prom, where we slow danced a few times, which was amazing. Also, starting the week leading up to prom, we have been talking online usually everyday. We've even talked for about 5 hours straight before. We have basically told each other that we like each other, too.
My problem is that he hasn't asked me out yet. We hang out usually once a week, but it's always with a group. He has mentioned a few times different things that we should do, and every time I cheerfully respond that it would be fun, but then he never says anything about it. He's pretty shy, and so am I, so that's probably the issue. Advice?
Also, he and his brother are leaving in a few weeks for about a month and a half, so I'm trying to figure out what I should do about that, too

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CTS207This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
May 24, 2013 at 2:31 pm

Wow, uh where to begin? You said before that "We have basicaly told each other that we like each other". I am curious as to whether that is directly "Hey, I like you" or "I have strong feelings for you" the two big words there are: "Like" and "feelings". Both of them have very different meanigns to both genders and more so how they were used in the conversation. At the heart of the issue at hand I really think its  this:  Do you know how he feels about you? and Does he know how you feel about him? The reason why I say that this is the heart of the problem is because without these two questions answered there really is no reason to ask anyone out. So once you get these questions anwsered everything should be easy from there.

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zander101 replied...
May 24, 2013 at 2:37 pm

cts207 is right about the " words tht mean diferent things to diferent genders.
be careful how yo word things for sure.
i had almost the exact oposit situation.
and i screwed up big time cause she said i was cute and i as a guy took that soooo rong

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nerdycountrygirl replied...
Jun. 2, 2013 at 10:24 pm

We haven't said it directly because we're both too shy to, but we have said it indirectly a few times, mostly using terms and jokes that we have just between us. He's also called me cute a couple of times, and he's not the type of guy that just goes around saying that, so I know it meant something. As indirect as all this seems, if you were in the situation you could see that there's something between us.
At the Ren faire several venders and what not insinuated that we were a couple, though he didn't say anything in the affirmative, he didn't deny it either. At a thing we were at together today, someone mentioned that they were wondering if I was his girlfriend. I'm pretty sure he didn't answer.
He makes it so clear that he really likes me when he chats online, but he doesn't really act that way very much in real life (though maybe he does and I don't notice since people keep thinking we're together), and I know it's because he's shy. Even though he doesn't act like it, when we happen to look each other in the eyes, it's like some cheesy rom com moment with sparks.
I really want to try and see if he'll go out with me before he leaves, but I know he's shy and I don't want to scare him off by pushing too hard.
UGH.

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