it's kind of a long story...
thanks for reading this! So i met this Guy back in october. My best friend hated him. But her other friend was daiting him. All I Ever heard about was how much friend one hated this guy!
(Friend one Megan) (Friend two Emie) (guy Treaden)
I got sick of it so I started txting Traeden trying to work things out. Ever since then we got really close and have told each other basically everything. He's always had trouble with Family and he lost his mom 6 years ago to Cancer. He's never had a good relationship with his dad and most of his siblings.
Well about a month ago he started getting really depressed but only me and Emie knew cause he always puts this Happy face on at school. We didn't do anything about it. but it got worse. He started blaming everything crappy in his life on Emie and She got fed up with it and was planning on breaking up with him. Just then, he threatened to commit suicide if she did. Not sure what to do, we took it to the councilors last friday.
We thought it was taken care of and things were improving until monday, when we got two notes saying that he only had a few more days left and all the reasons he has for suicide.
even more freaked out we took the notes to the councilors hoping they'd know what to do and fix it all. They called Emies parents. And we kinda left things alone. Then last night he sent her a facebook message saying we wouldn't see him at school the next day and he's super sorry but he can't live with the pain anymore.
Emie told her mom who Called traeden, eventually getting him to promise she'd see him tomorrow. She then called the cops. Who went and visited his house.
We took the txt's to the school officer today. and I found myself wondering how i had gotten there.
So Long story short. I'm not sure where to go from here. Is now when i get to just step out of it now that the cops are involved?
Any Help would be very appreciated! I'm lost and don't no what to do!
No, a good frirnd stays through thick and thin and he really needs all the good friends he can get right now.
Thanks! I guess i'll just stick by him... Keep trying to be there! thanks muicmissy
i know ths is a really hard time for you but take a mment and take a few deep breaths. i dont know if this will help or not but make him a list of all the reasons he should live. make sure to put some of his favorite things in there (music, tv shows, etc.) let him know that he's not alone and that other people care very much about him. Hope this helps.
Stick by him no matter what and if things get tough take a breather but dont give up and do what firelover said hopefully he realizes he has more to live for
Thanks guys! I apreciate the advise! That's a great idea firelover! I'll start the list right now! And I guess there's nothing more to do then to try and stick by him.
hey music chick, i just wanted to know if things were goin better :)
Mmmmm, hows Treaden?
This might sound strange or not accurate... But the next time u see him... Tell him you love him. It doesn't have to be the romantic love but only love can make someone do what u did. And he needs to be told that he's loved.
Well he's alive! Which is good! He danced with me for half a song at the last regional dance... Then left. He's been swearing at Emie through face book. And replaced the both of us pretty dang fast! But... I have to keep reminding myself, he is still alive and to be honest? That's all that really matters at this point. I would tell him that, (cuz your right, as much as I hate to admit it, I did grow to love him, then fell head over heals for him, even though one of my good friends was his girl friend...) but he doesn't really care about me anymore... I've tried to reach out to him and be nice but, he just ignores me in the halls and stuff so...
Hmmm, the best thing i can tell you is to give him some time, my sis was in kind of the same situation, but now they're back on speaking terms. Keep trying to be nice, though. he could realize that he made a mistake not talking to you anymore.
Hey WildeCow. I just got a Teenink after you told me about it a while ago. Think about which, "Emmy" you know with crazy curly hair. I was just browsing the site, and it just happened to be your post that was the first one I clicked on. Isn't that funny? Well WildeCow,(Its so hard not to call you your nickname on this thing.) its gonna get better. Rely on Heavenly Father. He wants to heal your hurt. I love you! I will always listen.
Thanks firelover! I apreciate the support and advise(: Thanks Em! Love you too! I actually changed my screen name, so my old ones are wildecow but I'm musicchick too.
Isn't it super creepy that yours was the FIRST one i looked at?
CREE-PAYY!! no offense...
I have felt the same once, from experience, you just need to tell him that things will get better and let him know that your there for him.
Yes Em! Super creepy! And no offense taken(: I know I just need to try and be supportive, but at the same time, it's so hard cuz he won't even LOOK at me in the halls anymore, I almost wish he was a girl, cuz then at least I'd know what was going on, weather he Hates me, forgave me.... The whole thing is getting to be a bit much
okay, heres something i might do, but u dont have to. the next time you see him go up to him and ask him why he wont talk to you anymore. maybe he wont be able to come up with anything. if he does stay and listen discuss it, sort things out. if he dosent say anything you van either make a dramatic exit and walk away :P or you can tell him how what he's dooing makes you feel. get your point across :) hope this helps
Hahaha okay I'll keep it in mind(: It's a great idea! But I'm not sure I have the nerve.