I'm worried about a friend of mine named Lottie...she's changed since the last time i saw her. She tries to act all cool around her new friends, being snobby and mean, but when she's with me, she's the sweet girl I've always known. Whenever i ask why she changes personalities, she burst into tears and won't answer me after that. I want her at my wedding next year....but i don't think i can handle her being mean to some of my other friends her new friends hate. (and i mean really really hate.) Plz help me.
Theres nothing you can do but sit her down explain to her that she doesnt have to change to be someones friend. Those people should like her for who she is.Tell her that its not a healthy situation. Dont let her run away. This stuff is serious. Congrats by the way on the wedding.!
yes sit her down and talk to her... i know what its like to change personalities just to make some friends. and i had to change everything about myself... i was not myself or forever..... and i cry every night about it too....
It's not that simple....every time I bring it up....she runs off or yells at me saying I'm paranoid. That I'm afraid I will lose her. But oh well....our friendship over anyway now.
Ever thought about bringing a trustworthy adult in on this matter?
Yes...her parents. but i'm over it now. It was just a waste of my energy trying to reconcile with her.
dont say that.i mean if you guyes have been friends for awile then try to talk to her. i mean i wennt through this same exact thing and talking to them is what fixed it. like i said PINN HER DOWN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 that way she cant run. the reason she eeps running from you is because shes scared. if she is your true friend than she'll listen eventually.