So...any girls out there - help me unravel the mysteries of my crush. I met this girl at the beginning of the school year and we spent a bunch of time together, getting lunch on the weekends, playing ping pong, etc. (I go to a boarding school). Having never dated before and being the person who overthinks everything it took me a long time to get up the nerve to ask her out, but the day I intend to do she starts mentioning a boyfriend back home. I was pretty upset/shocked so I stopped doing as much stuff with her and we've only played ping pong three or four times since then, but I still have a major crush on her. Anyway she still seems to have fun when we hang out, and I'm not sure if she's still dating the guy back home, but based off of that limited knowledge, do you think she is (or ever was) interested in me too? Or am I "friend-zoned"? Should I go for it and try to ask her out? Thanks everyone!
If she mentioned a boyfriend, she's not interested. However, if you're unsure, casually ask, in conversation, if she is still seeing the guy. Just slip it in somewhere. If she says no, wait a week or so, and then ask her out. Lay it on the line. You never know if you don't ask.
while you guys are talking, u should randomly ask her if she's still with her boyfriend. if she is, maybe she just sees you as a friend. if she's not, you guys might grow closer together (winks).
Well, as a girl, one of the major things i do when i am around someone i lke is that i get a little nervous. Everyone has a nervous 'tell', like in poker. So just observe and see if she seems a little keyed up around you.... or you can just casually ask her if she is still seeing the guy back home.
And if subtlety is not you strong suit, just ask her outright. Some girls like honesty and frankness.
As said before, ask her! Most girls would rather you know about that before you ask them out. Its ok to be a little blunt about it if its easier for you. Good luck and I hope it works out
Yeah i agree. see if she's still dating the guy, and if not, ask if she wants to go to the movies or something with you. if she is dating him, you can still hang out, she won't like you any less, but only if you can handle it.
Thanks everybody! I appreciate the advice.
I'm a girl and i know from expearence that when i hang out with a guy as friends i always develope a crush on him. She probably just mentioned her boy friend back home because she wanted to see how you would react. Try to hang out with her as much as you can with out getting her ennoyed, plan little 'dates' where you go to the movies or do somthing special. Ask about her friends at home and see what she says she might have made up the whole boy friend thing just to see what you would do.