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nerdycountrygirl posted this thread...
Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:24 pm

Ok, so I know I just posted a thread about a different guy, but the whole two guys thing is something I'll deal with later. ***WARNING*** This is realllly long. Skip to the end if you want.
So basically, I met this guy and his brother in a homeschool class my sister taught  when I was like 13 (so like 4 years ago). I quickly befriended both of them. One brother is my age and the other is like a year younger (We'll go with T and R to keep this from being confusing haha). T was nice, but a bit quiet, like myself. R, on the other hand, was always incredibly outgoing and fun. And it was quickly apparent that he liked me. At the time, I was way too shy to flirt (ok, I didn't really understand flirting at all LOL. And it wasn't that I didn't like him back, I did, but I had no idea what to do about it). Once the class ended, we only saw each other occasionally at homeschool events.
Up until a few months ago, I hadn't seen either of them for like two years. Then I started going to a youth group at a local church, and as luck would have it, they went there too.
It took hardly any time for us to be friends again. Although I was wary, I hadn't seen any major signs that R still liked me. I also figured any feelings he had for me all that time ago had gone away.
Then my mom found out about a homeschool prom that is planned to take place in a few months, and she suggested that I go. I wasn't really sure, since I'm shy. My mom e-mailed R and T's mom to see if either of them were going, and she said T wasn't interested, but that R might go if he went with someone he knew. My mom and their mom agreed to work on both of us to get us to go.
At our youth group's Super Bowl party, we talked quite a bit. Then we were getting food at the same time, with no one else around, and he mentioned that his mom was bothering him about the dance. I said the same, and asked if he minded being bothered. He said no, but that if we went I would have to understand that he loves to dance would act crazy. I said I didn't mind that, but explained to him that I am shy and have problems talking to people I don’t know. He very sweetly asked if he introduced me to people if that would help, and I said possibly. He also asked if I minded if he had a mohawk at the prom, like he was legitimately concerned that I would mind.
Then we walked over to another room where a few other people were hanging out, where there happened to be a piano. Eventually, R got to the piano and started to play, with me sitting on a couch next to the piano. He played a few different songs, and was awesome, which I told him (and he brushed off, saying it wasn’t that hard). After a little while, everyone else left and it was just us. He played The Office theme at one point, and some other familiar songs, sometimes asking me if I knew them, and explaining how he played them. Then, he played a slow song that I thought sounded kind of familiar, but I sounded very nice. When he finished, he said “And what’s cool is I can take one song, like The Office theme, and slow it down to make it sound different. And to impress someone.” And he looked right at me and smiled while saying it. I don’t even remember what I said I was so surprised (And I think my heart stopped and melted into a puddle of squee). Then he tried really hard to get me to play with him, since I play to, but I refused since I don’t think I’m very good and didn’t want to embarrass myself. Then the party ended, and I messaged him on FB the next say saying that if he went to the prom, I would go, and he seemed pretty happy.
I know that was really long, but basically what I want to know is, do you think he likes me? And what the heck do I do? I’ve never had any guy basically pursue me before, and I am completely at a loss for how to handle this.

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Kenrichi replied...
Feb. 6, 2013 at 3:22 pm

Your grammar was excellent so I read the whole thing lol. I think he likes you. Since he's chasing you, all you have to do is throw out obvious signs that you're interested and always smile when you're with him. He understands that you're shy, which is a good thing, but try to avoid one word replies to his questions and conversation topics. Keep me posted if you want, I'm always ready to give advice, and for the record you did excellent with asking him to the prom in spite of being shy. Oh and one more thing, always stay calm.

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nerdycountrygirl replied...
Feb. 6, 2013 at 3:40 pm

Haha, thank you, I try to make sure I always have good grammar. When I FB chat with people and they don't capitalize or use proper punctuation, it bothers the heck out of me xD.
Since we're already friends, I'm not really that shy around him. The only reason I lost my cool with the whole piano thing is because it was just so adorable and absolutely caught me off guard.
I will definitely keep you posted!

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nerdycountrygirl replied...
Feb. 6, 2013 at 3:43 pm

Oh jeez, I just re-read the post and found like 5 grammatical errors. That's going to bug me horribly haha.

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nerdycountrygirl replied...
Mar. 21, 2013 at 1:50 am

So here's an update:
We have become a little bit closer, I think, between FB chatting and hanging out at our youth group every week. I still catch him looking at me a lot, he always talks to me and includes me in conversations, and he always tries to stay close to me. In fact, at the last meeting, he was coming towards the table to sit down. He was heading towards the opposite side of the table from me, then I saw him look directly at me, and he turned around to come sit next to me. After the meeting me, him, his brother, and a couple of little kids were hanging out, and he played the piano again. At one point everyone else left and it was just us, so I walked over to him at the piano and we talked about that. He was actually about to teach me how to play something when I just a text that I had to leave. That really sucked, 'cause who knows what could've happened! >_< Before he walked me outside, he hugged me (second time!). Making a feeble attempt at hinting, I held the hug a little long, and after lingered my arm around his waist (which he did, too). Hopefully I'm planning on hanging out with him and other people at an event for several hours on Friday, and then at youth on Sunday.
Thoughts, opinions?

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nerdycountrygirl replied...
Mar. 23, 2013 at 8:55 am

So it looks like he won't be able to come to youth Sunday, but yesterday was AMAZING. I had sooo much fun, although unfortunately he was busy getting ready for a talent show so I didn't get to hang out with him as much as I would have liked to. But three rather notable things happened:
After his performance at the talent show, which was absolutely incredible, I hugged him and said he was awesome (which is a HUGE step for me).
I noticed one of his and his brother's friends talking to them just like mouthing words and making gestures with me around, so I don't know if that was about me or not, but it certainly seemed suspicious.
Also, at one point his brother made a casual reference to us being gf/bf. I guess he could easily have been jokign though.

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