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bennyB posted this thread...
Feb. 1, 2013 at 2:50 pm

Its kind of wierd when i tell someone that i like a person and all they say is "Just talk to her". well thats the problem its hard to just out of the blue talk to a girl like that specially if its the one you like. and what if you get rejected, then you probably cant look at that girl for the rest of your life (well that is probably an exageration) but still its not that easy

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CTS207 replied...
Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:03 pm

Speaking from experince, accross the board, both having to get over shyness and this 'fear', if you will, of talking to girls. Now I have a vast majority of female friends (none of them dating relationships all legit friendships) and though I am still reluntant about meeting new people. However college has kinda of forced it out of me lol.

Anyway, the point is take baby steps, get use to talking to girls as friends first and then through that you may find what you seek. Even if the girl is not a goddess, its a start. Forgive me for sounding shallow there, but its the truth. Good luck

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Kenrichi replied...
Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:21 pm

Cts, I don't think what you said was shallow, it sounded like the advice of a relationship expert lol(which you seem to be). Benny let me ask you a question: if you were a basketball player, what one word do you have to do in order to get better? Practice. Yes, that's the word; although you have a case of nervousness right now all you have to do is go out to a place(that females are out) twice a week (or more if you have to) and talk to any girl you see(no you don't have to do anything romantic if you don't want to). This is the best way, and when you get nervous ask yourself this: what's the worst that can happen? I have that answer also, the worst that can happen is you get rejected, now rejection might sting at first but God is so great till he put the other 50+ girls inside that building or vicinity for you to go and talk to. Practice non-stop and I guarantee that fear will vanish. I can give more advice, so just ask me anything further, but remember this, if you get rejected, then on to the next one, because we are hunters.

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flanny replied...
Feb. 2, 2013 at 9:43 pm

My advice is to start with something small like school. If you have any classes with her, ask her about an assignment or something. Then, you can start talking and maybe find a common ground, like you both like sports or art or something.

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SakuyaThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:34 pm

My boyfriend was very much like the difficulty you're having. He'd have the worst time trying to talk to me and all that would come out of his mouth was stutters and stumbles of an attempt of a hello. I'm a very direct kind of girl, and I appreciate guys who can just come up to me and say I like you. But understanding how crippling shyness can be I know that's very difficult. If this is a girl you aren't quite friends with make an effort to find out what she likes or make a daring leap and ask her a very simple question. You could always start out by just being friendly to her each chance you get. Some people get freaked out when you come up to them randomly and profess your love to them, but if you work gradually at it thing might just work out. And if she says no, stay her friend and work on become her best friend one that she can always trust and maybe just maybe you'll become what she really needed. like CTS said if this is one of those goddess girls that she may never go for a guy like you, you're probably just the guy she needs. A lot of girls really need someone to talk to that isn't a meathead.

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bennyB replied...
Feb. 6, 2013 at 3:09 pm

im not a relationship answer

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bennyB replied...
Feb. 6, 2013 at 3:09 pm

Correction: Im not a relatinoship expert

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SakuyaThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Feb. 6, 2013 at 8:14 pm

You don't have to be Will Smith from "Hitch" XD. One day the time may just come. It's also a matter of gaining the courage to go up and talk to her and what to say when you do. These are just my suggestions to you :)

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