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Hi - so I've been dating my boyfriend for 1 1/2 years now and everything was going great until we went back to school in the fall. We spent so much time together in the summer, so we knew that it would be an adjustment not going out on dates as much when school started. We were able to cope with that for a little while until two main things happened: dog + parents.
I got a dog in October and a lot of my time went to training him, walking him, and loving him.
My parents are still working on the house that we moved into a year ago and they need me to watch the dog while they work on house projects or go out with their friends. Most of my life has been spent with my parents (I was home-schooled until sophomore year), so they aren't used to me "running out" of the house every weekend. They keep saying that I should make more friends and get invovled in more stuff, but that doesn't seem fair because my best friend and boyfriend are the ones who deserve my free time first.
Anyway, these past few months have gotten worse. My boyfriend and I decided that we should go out on a date once every two weeks. This January I went hiking with him once - not very romantic. We only got 30 minutes of hiking in because we got stuck in traffic on the way there and I had to be back by a certain time. My parents have asked me to stay home on the weekends to help out and watch the dog. Then, on top of that, I got sick and probably won't be abe to go out this weekend either. :((((
My boyfriend talked to me today and ended up crying. He feels like my parents and I don't make an effort to include plans for dates. (I do, but my parents are "Well, we'll see....") He feels like he's not even my boyfriend anymore, just the guy I study with during free periods. (No PDA allowed at my school.) It's pathetic - we haven't gone on a romantic date in soooo long. I feel frustrated and upset too, and I don't blame him for being sad/mad. It's our last school year together before he goes off to college. :(((
I don't know what to do. I've tried talking to my parents, but I feel lucky if I ever get to go out anymore. (It's also this way when it comes to hanging out with my best friend, but she is cool with not seeing me for a month outside of school.) Please help. I don't think that this can go on for much longer.
Don't feel bad about him getting upset and crying, that means he's still into the relationship. Now here's the advice, I'll start with the dog. I've raised a dog from puppy to adult (he's gone by the way) and at times we had to leave him alone, so we put him in the garage and left the garage door slightly open for air and of course we put food and water in there. Another ultimatum is to make a pin for him to stay in with plenty of food and water (oh and toys) and test it out to make sure it's sturdy enough for a dog. Now if that alone can clear up your weekends then you should give it a try, but the other obstacle you will have to face is to tell your parents that you need your weekends with your boyfriend(and when you have this talk with them PLEASE don't have an attitude, be respectful. I hope advice is sufficient please keep me posted if you want. And as for school, if you can then try a quick kiss while you're in the hallways away from everyone, a hug would also work, it's the little stuff that helps a relationship. And if all goes well, tell your boyfriend about it. Good luck.