Okay well -I'm a girl and my best friend is a guy. We've known each other for over 2 years and been practically inseperable since we met. However as we've never dated or anything people have suggested (to put it lightly) that we should and it drives us crazy, even though it's been 2 years. Truthfully, I'm not sure how I completely feel about him. But anyway, when we first met, I was never really the touchy-feely type with hugging and comforting, but now I crave physical affection (not in a seexual way) and long for hugs, etc. But since we met, we've never hugged, put arms round each other or had any physical contact, and I really want to. My Grandad's just passed away and I feel like I need physical support as well as emotional support but I'm not sure how to tell my friend this so he'll give me the comforting I need. Any advice will be appreciated
My utmost condolences for your loss, and if you feel up to it, asking to hangout or even asking directly for comfort in the process of mourning(please forgive my nerdiness) will suffice. Guys don't mind a straight-up request with respect to time and circumstances. Simply ask him to hangout and there just talk things out with how you feel about the loss of your granddad, naturally you will get sad and if he is truly a good friend he will comfort you however way he can. Once again my condolences.
I wouldn't understand the need for it, but I can understand the relationship with your boy best friend, since I also have a "sister"(my girl best friend). From a boys point of view, he wouldn't want to try and over step his lines as your best friend; thus betraying your feeling, but if you ever felt like crying, I'm very sure he would hold you until you were finished letting it all out. Even if you were just seeking a hug though, just give him one nothing will come out of it so long as you keep calling him your best friend.
im really sorry to hear about your lost.but in this this type of situatuation the best thing you can do is come right out and tell him.because if you been feeling this who knows maybe he was/is too.i know it may be difficult because you dont know how it will affect him or his thinking but take the risk because if you dont youll see one day you missed one day what couldve been
sorry about that ^^^^^ i got some wwriting mixxed up with another post. but you should be honest with him and let him know, because honestly you two dont have to start dating for him to just give the "physical" part your talking about. and who knows maybehell be more willing than you think
The best thing might be just to outright say what's going on, not everyone is the mind reader you need. If he's your best friend he has probably sensed something isn't right with you and he might be waiting for you to tell him. You could always just do what my friend and I call "Rant Days" where you have a candle and when the candle is lit you can say whatever you want without judgement while the candle is lit and just have him beside you. If this guy really knows you, there won't be any awkwardness with you asking, "I really need someone right now, can I please have you to be a shoulder to lean/cry on?" You may not have to explain anything at all.