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There's a guy who really likes my sister, and she likes him too, but my parents REALLY don't like him. They say he's too hyper and his parents are rude. The second part is true but he isnt THAT hyper. He's a really nice, funny kid, but my parents refuse to get to know him. My sister is really frustrated, and I'd love to help her. What should I do?
I am going to go on a limb here and say that first impressions were made face-to-face and were not...good? OR do your parents listen to gossip and drew their opinions of him from what others say? Because if so, then a face-to-face meeting could turn things around, that is if your parents listened to gossip. But if not...then I'm afraid there is no remedy for First impressions last a lifetime.
May I know there ages I believe that would help all the advice that you will be given. I can quickly give the advice of sitting down with your parents away from your sister and strongly urge them to get to know him and even endure him (and his parents) if need be. This is ultimately all you can do in any circumstance.
Yeah, knowing the ages would definitely help...
Well at 14 boys are usually active and full of youth; however I don't think that's the problem. Perhaps it's because your parents don't think that your sister is old enough for a romantic relationship. But against still goes back to my previous advice, have a 1-on-2 talk with your parents and advise them to approve of him. If that doesn't work, then you've done what you can and I'm sure your sister would appreciate it.
i've tried all of this already :( the problem isn't that my sister is too young; we are twins and i have a boyfriend. it's just that the parents of the guy who likes my sister were really rude to my parents, so they just assume that the guy is the same
I see. Well at your age when parents don't get along then that is a major road block. If you haven't already tried this ask your parents to sit down with his and hope that by some miracle it ends with a new friendship being formed; however if that doesn't work, unless you're going to tell your sister to date him in secret then you need to just comfort her and tell her that she needs to find another boy. Because since neither one of them can drive to see each other it wouldn't be much of a relationship unless of course they used the long-distance relationship way and started to chat via Skype.
If they are willing you may also want to try a dinner, neutral if they haven't began dating yet, to try to create new grounds with the parents. If they're 14, that's still young and they could just date quietly until they're a little older and have matured since boys usually get that miracle of a brain around 16ish once they hit puberty
thank you so much everybody!! you've all been a HUGE help to both me and my sister :)