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My boyfriend is such a sweetheart. I love him so much. He's romantic, empathetic, athletic, genuine, funny, amazing body.........and jealous. He's always worried that I might like another guy or something. I think I've been pretty clear that I'm committed to this relationship, though......guys are so confusing!!!! What should I do??
Congratulations, you found a keeper, meaning that he is confident with himself and in this relationship, so much in fact that he is scared of losing it. Now depending on how he displays this fear can mean the difference between healthy jealousy and unhealthy paranoia. I'm sure you can figure out the difference between the two. But if you can't then anwser me this question: How does he display his feelings of jealousy? (be as specific as you can, please)
As you answer CTS'S question, I want to say something quickly. He probably had previously bad relationship and it left scar of insecurity. So to confront this problem you will have to sit down with him and talk about his insecurity and how commited you are (even if you've done it once it couldn't hurt to try again).
thanks for all the help :) he displays his jealousy by constantly asking me if i like this other guy (lets call him jacob). im only friends with jacob and i swear i dont like him as anything more than that. i honestly think im in love with my boyfriend....anyway, he's always worried that im cheating on him!! (im not i SWEAR)
wow, it kind of describes my life. I gave up all my friends for my boyfriend, and yeah it sucked at first but the way i looked at it is that once we leave high school, you are prob never going to see this "jacob" again, but if you're in a serious relationship and you honelstly think that you and your boyfriend are going to last past highschool and forever, then i think its worth it in the end. But honelstly, don't take me as an example. Only a certian type of people can do that and if you're not one of them that's fine, and that doesnt mean you dont love him it doesnt mean that your not committed to the relationship, it just means that you like your friends. I know that im extremly jealous about my boyfriend and this girl that constantly flirts with him, even though he doesnt flirt back. when someone is jealous, it just means that they are insecure and don't trust themselves to be good enough and so they constantly think that you are going to leave them. trust me, jealousy sucks and no one wants to feel it... so yeah im sorry about the long responce and the suckish advice but hope my story helps even a little to let you know you're not alone :)
thank you soooo much :) really, you've helped a lot :)