Okay we all have bestfriends out there. I love mine because she's the total opposite of me and is always there when I need her. She's been going through a hard time lately and it's mainly because of her boyfriend. They've been dating for a year and two months and it seemed fine at first. But lately he's been being a jerk towards her and is being really selfish. Just because they've been dating a long time and he thinks he can. I've been trying to convince her to take a break from him so he can think about how he's treating her. But she doesn't want to. She says all the good times outweight the bad. And as the friend she always goes to when they fight I can say that is not true. How do I get her to see that her bf needs to sort out his problems before things get really ugly? I don't want her to completely fall on her face but that seems like the only thing that will get her to wake up and realize that her relationship isn't healthy.....
Wow. This is difficult. i'm struggling with trying to help friends, although for different reason. Your friend needs to realize that she deserves to be treated better. Does she ever complain about her boyfriend? that could be a sign that she's over him. if you're concerned for you're friend's safety, talk to her. start with telling her that you're doing this because you care about her and are concerned. Eventually, she'll understand, just always be there for her
I feel selfish, but i need some friend advice too. One of my friends ditched my friend group to be more popular, and now i think she has an eating disorder (anorexic). my friends and i went to the counseler, but this girl says nothing is wrong. I want to stop her before she hurts herself.
Well you need to sit down with her and have a long talk with her about it, express your concern for her and make she knows that there is always a better guy out there for him. If that doesn't work then I hate to say it, but she will have to have heart break before she can move forward and if that happens don't tell her "I you told her so" just comfort her as I'm sure would naturally do.
Laurpug: I will give you some advice to if you're willing to accept it. Sit down and talk with her, and if she doesn't want to listen or change then there's nothing more you can do. After all we can't force anything on someone else whether good or bad. I wish you both the best of luck on your situations.
It's just frustrsting to see her be so blind.She says he loves her but you don't treat those you love like crap.And sorry laurplug I've been sick and unable to get on but here's what I'd do because I've had a friend with anorexia before. Talk to her. Let her know you're still there for her and be gentle when you ask about her eating, she might deny having a problem. But with my friend I suggested going to counseling and even went with her for support. Because it can be scary for them to talk to a stranger but if you're there it can be comforting.
i was sort of going through the same thing as you, except my friends boyfriend was abusive to her and to himself. he threatened to kill himself almost every single day, and it really scared her. i ended up telling someone we were all really close to about it, and it really helped. they notified the school who notified the parents and it stopped. he no longer abuses her or himself, and everyone is much happier now. i suggest to tell someone you trust about it. you dont want something really bad to happen. good luck:D