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Janie11 posted this thread...
Jan. 4, 2013 at 10:26 pm

I have this amazing great guy in my life. I really like him and he apparentley really like me back, problem is he just turned 18 and i just turned 16. Is the age difference bad? Is it a bad idea to continue with him?
What is the oldest you would date?

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Alice_C replied...
Jan. 5, 2013 at 12:07 am

I would say it is okay. I would first ask your parents (mother more so lol) what their thoughts are. Then just see what happens. Make sure that you both understand the laws of underage "activity" and make sure your parents are okay with the "activity." but that would be later one down the road, so just see were it goes before you worry too much

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BlackNether12 replied...
Jan. 5, 2013 at 9:00 am

At sixteen and eighteen there isn't a real problem with it : if you where, say, a few years older, it wouldn't be un - normal at all > otherwise I agree with alice.

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Author replied...
Jan. 9, 2013 at 7:21 pm

The age difference isn't bad at all... To be honest. My boyfriend is turning 18 eleven days after i turn 15.... Your age difference is fine...

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AmayaEcho replied...
Jan. 9, 2013 at 9:11 pm

Well, I am 16 and the guy I was dating was 18.  I broke it off with him before he went off to college.  It wasn't the age difference as much as going into different stages of life.  Relationships don't last long term easily when they're long-distance, but friendships often do.  And if he's graduating next year and going to a college where he won't really be able to see you often, save yourself the heartache.  If he'll be local, then maybe it's worth a shot.

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nerdlover17 replied...
Jan. 10, 2013 at 1:04 pm

I have been dating someone 2 yrs older than me for  2 years now. i was 16 and he was 18. it does take seriousness because you can feel loney during school, but if u both want to try. go for it. If you love each other it will work out

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half.note replied...
Jan. 11, 2013 at 8:04 pm

I would say, "Go for it."
In fact, my parents got married to each other at 16 and 18.
Times sure have changed that people consider it weird to date someone even just a few years older than you.
I know many people who are dating/married who have a large age gape:
My oldest brother married a woman who is about twenty years older than him. One of my other brothers is married to a woman six years younger. And yet another one of my brothers (I have five) is twenty-two as of tomorrow, and he's been dating a girl who's seventeen.
There's also a married couple at my church who are about thrity years apart. She's in her seventies and he's in his forties.
So there's really nothing wrong with it, in my opinion.
If this was even just a hundred years ago, you'd most likely be married off by now, and probably to a man much older than you.
Also, you asked the oldest I would date.
Honestly, I prefer older men (and even have crushes on a few). So I don't really have a limit.
Age is but a number...

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Jan. 15, 2013 at 5:55 pm

My grandparents married at 16 and something else...I'm not sure exactly how old my Grandpa was, but I know he was a few years older.
I personally have never been even remotely attracted to anyone my own age. Even if I think a guy is physically attractive, he's generally at least two years older than me.
There's nothing wrong with an age gap of two years. My parents are less than a year apart, and all of my siblings who have married have also been about the same age (one of my brothers' wif eand him were born less than a week apart), and that works for them, but there's nothing wrong with a gap.
I don't think there's really a problem with people being thirty years apart, either (unless one is like, forty and the other is ten, that's creepy). But I would avoid that personally, because I wouldn't want my husband to pass away thirty years before me...That would be sad. :(

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