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So my friendship group is complicated.
In short, I'm a girl, the group consists of 7 girls (including me) and 1 boy. The boy is my best friend.
It's REALLY complicated - people hate each other, like each other and sometimes like and hate each other. 3 of the girls in the group stir up trouble and are really sensitive.
In a perfect world, I wish they'd go away, but I don't wanna hurt their feelings. They're really upsetting me and they don't bully me or anything, but because they don't like the boy, it confuses me because I just wanna stay friends with everyone.
Now it's got to the point where I've become really sad and I'm just angry when I see these 3 girls, although their mood changes and sometimes they're nice to me.
Do I tell them how I feel?
Should I get my other friends to back me up?
Or do I just hang around with the boy?
Please, somebody, I'm in dire need of help.
Hope you understand this. Reply with questions if you don't.
You shouldn't have to carry the world on your shoulder as you are doing now, trying to keep the peace amongst frends is uneccessary. Especally when there should already be peace and acceptance as part of being 'friends'. But alas life is not so kind and its times like these when your true friends, the ones who stick by you, appear. So if this group of friends of yours breaks up into peaces do not be too sad just stick to your true friends, even if it is just the guy. So my advice to you is this: find your true friends, the ones who you trust and know will always have your back. Take those friends and seperate from the other three girls who are causing trouble.
Its not going to be easy and it maybe stressful but trust me its alot easier then carrying the weight on your shoulders.
Thank you very much for your advice :)
I wish I had that problem . . . all those people flocking around me. . . Anyway. Accept each of your friends for who they are. Spend time with them at different times. Hopefully they'll eventually gain the maturity to get over the childish behaviour of hating people, and learn to accept each other for who they are.
I wish it were that simple :(
I like everyone, most of the time, but I feel like piggy in the middle as people don't like people etc. Take yesterday, for example, I was the last out the lunch queue and two of my friends in this group were on one side while the other two were on the other side! Whoever I chose to sit with, I would get shouted at! So I chose to sit in the middle :(