so there is this guy lets call me fred hes a total sweetheart hes also my bestfriends and ive been crazy about himsince i met him 3 years ago hes the total package sweet funny insane at times and always keeps a smile on my face anyways he said he started to have feeling for me so we started dating most everyone thought it was adorable everyone was happy for except this ONE person lets name him ted he told fred i was nasty and gross and told him to break up we almost did break up that monday but didnt fred texted me that he was stupid for even thinking about breaking up with me and then two days later he braoke up with me through a text he said "i love you and care for your so much but i just cant do this anymore"!!!!!!!!!!!!! i was so mad EVERYONE was mad at him he said it had nothing to do with ted but i just know it did.... i was heartbroken he still acts like we are still bestfriends well yesterday for my birthday i got my hair done i came to school today and he looked at me and said in all seriousness "kayla your hair looks amazing.... you look amazing..." i almost died all the feelings came flooding back i dont know what to do help....................
Okay !: stay calm 2 take a very deep breath. I know what you're going through though it was a bit different. What i want you to do is continue being you. I'm not going to tell you to go and flirt with another guy to make him jealous, I wont tell you to totally ignore him, but i will tell you that you can't give in immediatley. Dress up once in a while, don't get upset about the past, be friends with him again, and just let time go past. It's kind of like meeting him all over again. You like him, and you wonder if he likes you back. A fresh start and a new beggining are always great for people who have broken up and have old feelings sprouting up again.
Well, if he don't want you, find someone worth your time. He could have been complementing you because he meant it in a friends kind of way.
Wow, he sorta sounds like a jerk.
Tell him you still like him and want to date him, but if he doesn't wanna date you then you don't wanna be best friends with him until you're totally over him, because it sounds like it's driving you insane!
But mainly, just make sure you're completely comfortable with whatever decision you choose.
Accept that you're both young and he's probably totally freaking out about trying to have a relationship. It could be a case of him not understanding what he wants. That's something you can put up with, or you can walk away from. If you walk away, you'll probably regret it for a couple years, but you'll get over it eventually. The best thing you can do it straight out ask him what's going on. I don't mean in a text, or an email, or over the phone. Face to face, people don't lie easily.
he has always been my bestfriend we could talk about anything but now its like we are strangers he makes it awkward and still gets mad about other guys. last night he comment on my facebook with some smart butt comment because my status was about a guy i completly lost it on him i went off and he got mad at me it was horrible i dont know what to do or say or even how to act its like the thought of being what we were scares me and i HATE it. i miss my bestfriend terribly but i want the guy i fell for..............
This may be hard, but that guy may already be gone. I think maybe it's time to slowly break away from him and try again with someone else. There's no rush, but don't let this guy be the reason you missed out on someone who would really love and care about you.
it's just a horrible feeling not having the guy i used to love and be bestfriends with in my life
You sound like a really nice girl. He's an idiot for breaking up with you. Look: if it was that easy for someone to convince him to break up with you, then he's not worth it.
if there was a like button i would like the comment before mine