so i switched schools this year, leaving behind one of my best friends, a really awesome guy who's had a crush on me for like a year (or so he says). i told him i didn't like him like that because i'm not allowed to date and....i guess i dont? i don't know. but anyway, i introduced him to my best friend at my new school, and, well, they HIT IT OFF. annoyingly so. i know he's just moving on because i said i didn't like him, but she swore she wouldn't go out with them; and here they are, keeping secrets from me. or at least she is--he'll tell me. what do i do?
I honestly think you should talk to her about it. If she's a true friend she'd tell you. Also make it clear that you don't want her dating him, and make it clear with your guy friend too. If they respect your feelings then they're less likely to date...I hope I was of a little help to you:)
i hate to sound whiny, but i tried all that. now they're dating. and i feel OVERLY INVOLVED. she calls me whenever they kiss. he asks me where to take her out on dates, what to get her....how do i, uh, separate myself without losing one or both of them?
I understand where you're coming from, which if I'm correct is that your two friends seem to be like a blooming flower that(from what it sounds like) should continue to grow, however you are like a leaf there from the start that now needs to fall. This leaf is not whiny it is merely willing to move on(without losing the flower of course). The distinctive thing about relationships is that it is somewhat inevitable that much time WILL be taken and devoted to them by the individual. However, this does not mean you will lose your friends. As long as both of you WANT to remain friends, you will! And as long as you both TRY to remain friends, you will.
that was incredibly poetic. and helpful. thanks!