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My problem is sorta weird.. I can't talk to guys! I just start picking on them for some reason that I don't know why. Can you help me to just make friends with boys? (NOT flirting, PLEASE!)
Ahem . . . first, I must note that I have the same problem ( just like all of my bro's ) with girls, just can't talk . . . lose words . . . whatever you wanna call it, but it isn't fun for sure. You just have to start a conversation, get talking - what's wrong with flirting?
I'm not looking for a boyfriend, just a friend boy.
I am rather curious as to why you desire a male-friend (as some would call them)? More so why do you have a sudden urge to pick on them? In my psych classes, nervousness, and anxiety (the stress) of the social situation could cause you to act defensively in this manner. (odd as it sounds it is possible) but that aside, I really am curious as to the why, for that is the only way I can figure out how you can get what you desire.
I guess that, well, most girls have friends who are boys. All I have is my friends who are girls. I sort of want a guy that I can trust other than my family.
CTS207: Guy friends are the best! They tend to have wayyyyy less drama, and they're just fun to be around :)
Oh, and SmileOn: Just be yourself!!! If you just think about the fact that you aren't looking for a boyfriend might put your mind at ease. BUT.....I'm not very helpful because I've never really had problems talking to guys... :/ I hope I AM helpful though!!!!
My guy friend and I are really close because we have something in common. We both are in band and we talk to each other a lot on our way to band or before concerts. After you have a connection then it's all good. We eat lunch together and sometimes he walks me to class. You just need to relax and just talk like you normally would. Make sure you pick a guy who's not going to ignore you like a jerk. Choose the quite one in the back of the class. It helps to have a guy friend, because you don't have to worry about saying the right thing, because trust me, guys are idiots too, and sometimes they'll say something stupid.
whiterose, that's way easier said than done... but thanks. :)
I am in the same boat SmileOn, my best friend all through grade school was a guy, and once we got into Middle School, he stopped talking to me. I'm in 8th grade now though, and we are becoming friends again. I think you need to start by talking to them outside of class, talk to the guy behind you (if you know him), and talk about something HE likes, then, it will get easier and easier.
I meant to say, talk to the guy behind you on the bus.