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AthenaMarisaDeterminedbyFateThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. posted this thread...
Nov. 3, 2012 at 11:54 am

I have a friend (person A) who isn't a member on here, but there are these two guys who like her. One of them went around telling everyone she was his girlfriend, which she has finally managed to establish that she isn't, but the other one she kind of likes, except one of our friends likes him, and isn't very happy that he likes person A, and is protesting it. Except person A says what she really wants is to be able to be good friends with both of these guys without having to deal with all of this, and the one who she kind of likes wasn't talking to her until two days ago, because rumor got around that he likes her. WHAT DO WE DO ABOUT THIS MESS?!?!?! This has been a cycle for the past two months.

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lizzy10111 replied...
Nov. 3, 2012 at 5:10 pm

well, i see this cycle every other day where i am. obviously the first guy likes her n is just messing with her for attention, the second guy is the one out of it all mostly. wat u want to do is get those 2 guys to be friends, and all hang out together...hope i helped :)

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Nov. 3, 2012 at 5:13 pm

The problem isn't that the two guys aren't friends. It's that her friend is angry with her because the second guy (who is now talking to person A again) likes person A instead of her friend. But thank you. It's good to know that other people end up in the same situations.

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CTS207This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Nov. 3, 2012 at 6:05 pm

This sounds to confusing, and half-of-it probably matches the quality of communication amonst all people involved. If I were you, I'd back off and watch, only step in for the safety of all involved. But alas it seems this will not do or so I gather. Ahh perhaps what is needed most is to clean up any and all problems of communication between everyone that is involved.  And please for the sake of everyones sanity, DO NOT do any of this over facebook and especally NEVER via text.
 

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Nov. 3, 2012 at 6:55 pm

Oh, it all happens in person. It's just a mess, because in eighth grade, apparently drama is common because of the whole who-likes-who thing...

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Nov. 3, 2012 at 6:55 pm

Oh, it all happens in person. It's just a mess, because in eighth grade, apparently drama is common because of the whole who-likes-who thing...

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lizzy10111 replied...
Dec. 9, 2012 at 2:41 pm

Haha i know!~ 8th grade is sooo crazy with the drama! but if you hang out with some of the less populars sometimes u get to see what u've been rlly missing!!

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Dec. 9, 2012 at 5:40 pm

I live with the less populars. I don't hang out with populars. 

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Dec. 9, 2012 at 5:47 pm

Okay, so that last reply did not come out right. I meant that I don't care about being popular. I'll hang out with people who are nice and don't cause drama (whether nor not someone else causes it for them to have to fix), whether they're considered popular or not.

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AmayaEcho replied...
Dec. 11, 2012 at 9:29 pm

Guy #1 is a jerk.  Enough said.  As for as he goes, she should stick to her story and move on.  If she doesn't appear too affected by the gossip, it will die down faster.  There's no use trying to make friends with a guy who would take advantage of her like that.
As for the other guy, most likely he's sizing her up, wondering if she would be a good girl to start a relationship with.  Tell your friend not to commit to a relationship until they've been friends for at least 3 months.  While he's checking her out, she should be checking him out.  If there are negative qualities about him, she should know about it before the relationship instead of during, which could ruin everything.  It's easier to move on from a pure friendship than an affectionate relationship.

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Dec. 12, 2012 at 9:08 am

Thanks. The whole thing got resolved a few weeks ago, but I'm sure that similar situations will arise in the future with different people (these circumstances have a habit of repeating themselve), and I'll keep this in mind :)

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