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CTS207 posted this thread...
Oct. 29, 2012 at 12:02 am

I am a man of faith, forgive and forget is essentially how I live and date. When it comes to my present gf's past, it is of no exception. So the story goes she has conffessed a good chunk of her loosed past to me. A part I will not devulge, but will safely say any other man would run away. But alas I love her too much to do so.
Yet here lies the problem...there is more, she has more to confess........I am still a mortal man. Imperfect in every way shape and form, my past is not so holy  nor is it as loosed as her's. I fear of hearing more, Less my heart fail along with everything else.  Then of course in the fear is if I don't hear anymore, then I will miss something rather serious.
SO I leave it to you, to fear ignorance or knowledge? What shall I do?

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CTS207 replied...
Oct. 29, 2012 at 7:44 pm

Question here incase no one gets it, Should I learn more about her past? or not?

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Oct. 31, 2012 at 8:57 am

I think you should find out about her past. It should be important to know what they have done in the past. It's like certain signs tell you that you have some disease but for the fear of having it, you don't go to the doctor. You end up going and nothing's wrong. Does this make you crazy for going and getting checked out?? Of course not, your were taking pre-caution. So now you take the same pre-caution with this situation. It doesn't hurt to know the past. Because guess what? If you love her, nothing she did IN THE PAST should matter.

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CTS207 replied...
Oct. 31, 2012 at 7:14 pm

Indeed...God  willing everything will be alright in the end

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funnywritterchick replied...
Nov. 7, 2012 at 12:01 am

I don't think It matters what she did in the past I mean it's in the past  It should stay there.  People grow and change and make mistakes but all that matters is who they are now and what they have done recently.  I think you should just let her past go unless what she has to tell you can harm you in any way.  Good  luck and God bless you :)

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Sherlocked replied...
Nov. 18, 2012 at 1:24 am

I am a girl with a past. Let's just say it isn't a pretty one.
She really trusts you, you probably already know this. I know you're afraid, but try not to be. Fear clouds your mind of what truly matters.
I think you should listen to her. I don't know what her past includes but I know that when I started going out with my guy I needed to tell him everything that I've done horribly wrong and anything horribly wrong that has happened to me that would effect our future. It's a nervracking ordeal. The best thing you can do is listen and stand by her.

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CTS207 replied...
Nov. 18, 2012 at 4:55 pm

All of which and more I have done, and will continue to do... thank you all

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