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TheDarkCryLove posted this thread...
Oct. 11, 2012 at 2:24 am

i want to ask people, have you ever been friend zoned? and if you had what did you feel like? how bad was the friend zone?

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TheDarkCryLove replied...
Oct. 11, 2012 at 2:29 am

i recently got friend zoned, and it hurt.

she started talking tome about a guy she met a week ago online and who wanted to meet her by taking her out on a date.

he was 19 and already had a child, and a reputation with one of her friends

i have to say being friend zoned makes you feel like a bag of shit, evn worsewhen you tell her she friend zoned you and she admits she knew i had a cruch on her, she did appologise, then friend zoned me again with the magic words "i think we should just be friends"

so in one day i got friend zoned twice by the same person...

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Oct. 11, 2012 at 3:58 pm

When I was first friend zoned, it really hurt because I really like her but over time I realized that it she made the right decisions because her and I have become really good friends now and are better that way.

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sorla replied...
Oct. 11, 2012 at 5:26 pm

I like the friend zone, it's uncomplicated. I could either hook up with every boy or girl that I see, or I could remain friends with the good ones, and it's better to have friends anyways. They like you for who you are, not what you look like. 

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Oct. 12, 2012 at 2:54 pm

sorla's right but be careful of being friends with benefits because it can cause trouble.  Sometimes when you're friend zoned its better cause you may be better off as friends AND you'll find someone who'll like you even more than the person who friend zoned you too.

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MidnightCherry replied...
Oct. 15, 2012 at 7:49 am

When i was in the friend zone i really liked the guy, then he got a girlfriend. I started getting jealous and just really sad becuase it was like hello i like you. I recommend you think about if you want to be her friend or her boyfriend because trust me it doesnt work out. My recent experience my ex boyfriend put me in the friend zone knowing i still loved him, and he dated another girl. It hurt like hell!!!!! So please think about it becuase it hard to go back to being friends after a relationship.

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realbeautifulheart replied...
Oct. 18, 2012 at 12:28 am

Oh, the dreaded friend zone. I have been friend zoned since… um about 4th grade. At first, it seemed kind of horrible because I was a kid and, like any girl who meets a guy with pretty eyes, I had it pretty bad. It's funny thinking about it now because we're best friends. I can talk to him about anything and ask for an honest opinion because I know he'll cut the crap. I will warn you, sometimes it feels like Taylor Swift's "You Belong With Me" is speaking to you. Just keep your head up and continue walking. The friend zone is for tough people. Girlfriends/boyfriends make messes while we watch from the shadows in the good times and pick up the broken pieces in the bad. Not only are we the told-you-so-ers, but also the crying shoulders.

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realbeautifulheart replied...
Oct. 18, 2012 at 12:33 am

Oh, the dreaded friend zone. I was friend zoned in about um… fourth grade. It kind of hurt at the time because I was young and, like any girl who meets a boy with pretty eyes, far gone. Looking back on it now, it all seems funny. We are best friends now. I will warn you that sometimes it'll seem like Taylor Swift's "You Belong With Me" is speaking to you. Just hold your head up and keep walking. The friend zone is for tough people. Girlfriends/boyfriends make messes while we watch from the shadows in the good times and pick up the pieces during the bad. We are not only the told-you-so-ers, but also the crying shoulders. It's not a job for wimps.

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TheDarkCryLove replied...
Oct. 18, 2012 at 4:30 am

i know the friend zone isnt to bad, but wtf do i do if all the men and women who have friend zoned me need a shoulder to cry on at the same time? i only have two shoulders!! XD

i just want to know wht other peoples friend zones have been like

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Confuzzled5This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Dec. 25, 2012 at 12:30 am

The Friend Zone sucks until you accept the fact that you will always be friends, and nothing more.  There's this guy with whom I got friend zoned, and now we're good, and I even give him advice about girls, so, I guess it's not so bad after you get past the weirdness.

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Roma459540541 replied...
Dec. 31, 2012 at 1:01 pm

Before anything else, my reply if mostly from a guy's point of view so take that into consideration. First, you need to truly DEFINE the friend zone. I think of the friend zone(and you may choose to or not to if you want) as a giant bullet-proof glass box, and every girl has one. Once you become extremely close to a girl in ways like learning secrets or sharing problems, then they have probably put you into this box. Now, this box is not being abandoned, so one should not abandon the box because that is a cruel thing to do. That would be like saying because YOU don't like me that way I'm not gonna hang out with you. So instead if you're put into the glass box, you should merely accept it and make the best of it. And I do agree with realbeautifulheart in the sense that the friend-zone can be a difficult job if you are close friends with the person. Sometimes it seems like every friend is coming to you to cry on your shoulder. First on that subjectt, congrats you are, according to those friends, a great friend to talk to and you should keep it up. If you ever feel overwhelmed by those who come for help then you keep trekking for as long as possible, but if you REALLY need a break it's as simple as muting your phone for a few hours, or going offline. If you're with them in person it's more complicated than that and you basically just need to wait it out(kindly of course). Now, I will say personal experience in the friend zone was tough and confusing at first. I had like a girl for the longest time(probably too long w/o doing anything, it's not healthy) and when I got the chance I tried getting close to her and it worked excellently. However, I knew nothing about the friend-zone and I had gotten inot it pretty quick(kinda my own fault too). At first, I was very sad and confused and just wanted not to talk to her, but then I learned from some other friends who were girls that I had put myself in the friend-zone and that she was really confused now. As soon as I learned this, I accepted the friend-zone and now we are very close friends who BOTH go to each other for help.

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Paulski replied...
Jan. 6, 2013 at 3:31 pm

I am the Sovereign Ruler of the Friendzone, and all which resides in its domain. It's lame. But you know, it isn't all that bad. You really can have a good friendship if you actually value the person. People don't value friendship all that much. And that's sad.

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TheLastDragon replied...
Mar. 5, 2013 at 12:00 pm

I am a girl. And I get friendzoned by guys all the time. I'm like one of the other guys to them. Apparently, dating me would be like "dating my sister. Wait, no. My brother." While it's really awesome to have such great friends who hold me in such high regards, it gets frustrating to no end. They freak out even if I just decide to wear a dress one day, to feel a little girly. Gah. 

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zombieslayer22 replied...
Mar. 5, 2013 at 3:47 pm

I recently liked this guy like crazy he made it obvious he liked me too though and he even led me on by kissing me everyday til people asked are yal going out he was like no. i got all sad and he noticed and said lets give it a try we dated for like 3 days then he freidnzoned me completly out of nowhere :''( i didnt get what happened he said he loves me more as his best friend ..it sucks but i love him enough to respect his decision even though it hurts like hell

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