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katie-cat posted this thread...
Sept. 27, 2012 at 6:29 pm

My freshman year I met this guy and we became such good friends.  He was so fun to talk to and I could really be myself.  Two weeks after we met he told me he liked me over Facebook and I basically freaked.  I don't know why.  It just scared me and I didn't know how to handle it, so I let him down gently, but he was still pretty hurt.  But, the next day he acted like nothing had happened and we went back to being great friends.  Then later in the year this other guy started flirting with me and he got so jealous and we had a huge fight over it.  I was mad and I didn't handle it well at all.  I tried to push him away and I know I was mean to him because I was mad.  We stopped talking after that, only casual conversation every now and then.  Our sophomore year we both were asked to prom by different people and my date turned out to be a jerk.  My friend was so nice to me and seemed to miss me like I missed him.  He asked me to dance at prom and I wanted to so badly, but I didn't want to be one of those girls who blew off their dates for ten other guys so I tried to kindly decline.  Now, we're seniors and we hardly ever talk.  I've liked him since sophomore year.  We've both been in and out of different relationships, but I always go back to him.  As far as I know we're both single now, but one of his best friends is a girl and that makes me nervous for obvious reasons.  I so wish I hadn't rejected him freshman year.  I miss our friendship and I miss talking to him.  I just don't know what to do.  I'm afraid he's given up on me and moved on.  I'm terrified to tell him what's going on because one, I'm afraid of rejection, and two, I don't want him to think I'm being selfish.  I'm so confused, so, help would be nice.

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JadeElizabeth replied...
Sept. 27, 2012 at 6:44 pm

okay im going to be simple here :3 you need to tell him how you feel! the same thing happened to me and my best guy friend, 3 nights ago me and him had a huge fall out and he blabbed out how he felt and that if he lost me he couldnt live with himself! and i told him how i felt... and its been like that since we met three years ago :p but yeah we started dating yeasterday actually :3 hahahah
just be honest with him and tell him that you have liked him for ages, and you have never had the nerve to do it... and he wont think your selfish, he might be relived or something like that :) and dont be affraid of rejection, if it does happen just reemember that you rejected him back in freshman, <3 whats to lose?

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katie-cat replied...
Sept. 27, 2012 at 7:46 pm

First of all, congratulations on your and your best guy friend, I'm glad everything worked out! 
I'm just afraid he's in to someone else, and every girl he talks to, I seem to analyze it down to a tee, and it's terrible.  I just feel like I don't have any right, you know?  It's not like I haven't dated anyone else, it doesn't feel right for me not to want him to, but I guess that's natural, I can't really help that.  I just have a huge fear of rejection and embarrassment.
It also is really hard because the girl he's friends with asked him to be her escort for the homecoming court, and now I have to watch and wonder if he likes her and vice versa. 

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Kenrichi replied...
Sept. 27, 2012 at 9:34 pm

Focus on Jade's question, "What's to lose?". If you get rejected you lose him. Even if you just sit back you will completely lose him, and then the worst part will be that you won't know whether or not you could have been in a relationship or not.
If you want to know whether or not he likes her, then i suggest you start back talking to him and ask him. 
I wish you the best of luck.

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JadeElizabeth replied...
Sept. 27, 2012 at 10:32 pm

yeeep exactly, whats there to loose, better to find out i guesss... :Li had a fear of rejection with matt till we were honest... its reaally a 50/50 chance :3 like flipping a coin <3 hahahaha wish you luck!

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katie-cat replied...
Oct. 5, 2012 at 4:19 pm

Update: Okay, so I've been suspecting that he's into someone else.  We recently had a really casual homecoming dance and he and this other girl kept hanging out together.  The thing is she's really, really nice, so even if they did date I wouldn't even feel right being mad.  Anyway, yesterday he changed his status to "in a relationship" but didn't say with whom.  I found out through the day it was a completely different girl than I thought.  Then, this morning he was back to single.  I overheard one of his friends talking about it today saying how she thought he liked the girl from the homecoming dance, he said he did, but then the girl who he was "in a relationship" with for a day said she liked him and so he just went with it.  I know that's very convoluted, but, any thoughts? 

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