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IDK if he likes me - i do but... does he?

Xiana.jdThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. posted this thread...
Sept. 17, 2012 at 11:49 am

So there's this friend of mine that just broke up with his girlfriend beause she was cheating on him with two other boys and i've liked him for two years while she's been dating him. But now that he's not dating her, should i ask him out? i mean, it's kinda sudden right after he broke up with her but...
IDK. i just want some advice. thanks.
PS - the girl that was dating him is one of my friends! :(  

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daisygirl101 replied...
Sept. 17, 2012 at 8:07 pm

I would be careful. If hes been datiing this girl for awhile he might not be ready yet to move on. Time is definitely key. Try slowly introducing the idea of dating to him again. If you don't have his number get it and text him about casual things then slowly get more flirty or get more  relationship-y . If he responds to it then you can get closer if not you know he isn't into it.

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Kenrichi replied...
Sept. 17, 2012 at 8:11 pm

Take Nebraska's advice I support it 100%. Don't worry about your friend she will live, apparently she didn't truly appreciate nor want the boy.

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AnyaMarie replied...
Sept. 18, 2012 at 7:41 pm

I would give it a little time. If hes not ready he might think he wants a relationship but he really doesn't, so he may or may not lead you on. just be carefull

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Xiana.jdThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Sept. 19, 2012 at 11:33 am

i have his number and i have called him many times (i don't have a cellphone) and he sometimes answers back (he is really busy) and he does act in a friendly manner - we are in a society with me, him and another boy and we are the best of friends and we help solve each others problems ( this breakup was one of them) but i still don't know if he just wants to be good friends or my boyfriend.
thanks for the tips all of you - you guys are soo nice!
=3

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Kenrichi replied...
Sept. 19, 2012 at 5:04 pm

No problem :D. By the way just to let you know, a guy is more likely to ask out a good friend then a random person or distant friend. So just keep showing yourself friendly and it will be a higher chance that his feelings for you turn romantic(if thy already aren't). Good luck^^

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Kenrichi replied...
Sept. 19, 2012 at 5:04 pm

No problem :D. By the way just to let you know, a guy is more likely to ask out a good friend then a random person or distant friend. So just keep showing yourself friendly and it will be a higher chance that his feelings for you turn romantic(if thy already aren't). Good luck^^

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Xiana.jdThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Sept. 21, 2012 at 11:36 am

well that has to suck - if she breaks up with him more than two times then she dosen't deserve him.

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ambamixx3 replied...
Sept. 27, 2012 at 7:54 pm

Ok, I will tell you straight up, why this is one of the most horrifying situations you could ever be on. 
1st. If you do go for it, and he says he likes you, then you'll probably lose your other friend or she won't probably care.
2nd. If you go for it, and he says no, & your friend finds out she'll probably be mad, or not? 
3rd. If you wait longer, they'll probably get back together.
And you know the, other millions of outcomes that can come out of this kind of relationship.
What I've learned about situations like this, is:
- TO NEVER go out with a friends' ex: even if she says it's alright, deep down she's probably hurting.
- Every action has a consequence: think about the possibilities again.
- You can be the one left hurting & crying in the floor at the end.
- NEVER ASK A BOY OUT: personally, really don't do, based on my experience don't do it, UNLESS you're100% sure he'll say yes.
 
   I wouldn't go for it. 
Because of the outcomes.
Too risky. But again it's whatever your heart desires, but remember the consequences.
k? good luck babe.

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Nov. 23, 2012 at 10:26 pm

I get where ambamixx3 is coming from. Saying that it will never work out is a little dramatic, but I get it. This is probably a passing crush, but no one can tell but you! I'm probably not helping.... Keep us posted!

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Confuzzled5This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Dec. 25, 2012 at 12:15 am

I don't think it's a bad idea to ask a guy out. I did, and even though he said no, I don't regret asking him, because if I didn't I would wonder...

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Roma459540541 replied...
Dec. 31, 2012 at 1:12 pm

I understand what ambamixx is saying and I agree with the fact that if you ask this guy out, there is a good chance that friend won't like you. But considering what she's been doing to this poor guy, is she really that good a friend? I don't mean to talk bad, but doing those kinds of things(especially so early on in life I mean, there hasn't been time to get sick of someone like the cases with people in marriage, we're still just teens whether we think we're mature or not )to that guy is just uncalled for and rude. Now, if you decide you really like this guy and you're gonna go for it, it's very simple really. Guys(take it from me I am one) are clueless about anything(especially women) about 88% of their lives. They may think they know what's happening, but they never really do. So I wouldn't say it's unlikely that he has no clue your affections. He could be on the fence when it comes to friend or girlfriend, you just don't know yet. My advice would be to just ask him, and see what he says, because the chances of him asking you are not as great. Of course, this is all if nothing has happened yet. And it's obviously not too early to do this anymore.

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AmayaEcho replied...
Jan. 1, 2013 at 8:00 pm

My personal opinion is that the girl should never ask out the guy.  Why?  Guys need to pursue.  Guys need  to chase.  When a girl asks the guy out, it takes all the thrill away for them.  Take it slow, since he just had a bad breakup, and just hang out with him more, flirt a little, gain his interest.  He'll pick up on the signs.

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