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Lost_Is_Maria posted this thread...
Sept. 6, 2012 at 8:43 pm

So I'm in a total mess right now. I really want to come out, and was ready to come out, but the first person I came out to was my mum. When I told her she didn't believe me. Said I was too young to know, even though I've known since I was nine. She. Didn't. Believe. Me. Her exact words before she left were, "If it makes you feel any better, I don't think you are lesbian". That obviously made me feel way better.
So now I'm sort of second guessing myself. At fifteen, am I too young? I don't think so. I know for a fact that the idea of kissing a boy makes me squeamish, and kissing a girl sounds right. I know that if a handsome boy and a pretty girl walk into a room I'll look at the girl. I know that I have huge crushes on Anne Hathaway and Scarlet Johansson.
Another thing I know is I'm head over heels for my best friend. My best friend who likes boys. My best friend who wears mini skirts and thigh high socks. My best friend who wants to cosplay with me as the two Alice's from Pandora Hearts, with her being the one in the corset and mini skirt.
My best friend who has no idea that I'm lesbian.
Me friends think I'm synical because I sneer when I pass a happy couple in the hallway.
I sneer because they don't have to be brave and I will never be brave enough.

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Camilla800 replied...
Feb. 28, 2013 at 8:49 pm

what are you really asking for?
do u need help?
or just someone to talk to?

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Mar. 9, 2013 at 6:28 pm

i think that the best thing you can do right now is try telling your mom again. seeing as time has passed, she'll probably be more tolerant since you are older. if it doesn't go well and she happens to be homophobic, don't take it personally; the older generations were raised in a world where most people hated LGBT's. once you finish telling your mother, i think you should also tell your friend. before you do, though, try scoping around and dropping subtle hints to see if she is a homophobic......best of luck :)

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RarelyJaded replied...
Mar. 9, 2013 at 8:12 pm

Find a support group at your school, there must be a club you can join. Now, I'm kind of stuck here because I'm Christian but I know that being a lesbia.n isn't a choice you made, right? So no matter what, I hope you find that special someone who makes you happy, and if your parents love you (and I'm sure they do) they'll come around.

God bless

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JoPepper replied...
Mar. 9, 2013 at 9:23 pm

Look I think it's great you really confident about who you are.  Your mom could be in denial, or she could have honestly thought you were joking...as for your best friend...I agree with PeaceLoveCrossCountry try dropping subtle hints xD I wish the best for you! xD

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JoPepper replied...
Mar. 9, 2013 at 9:24 pm

And it could very well be that she does suspect it...you never know...

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Mar. 10, 2013 at 1:19 pm

exactly. i agree with JoPepper. if she's a really good friend of yours, chances are she probably guessed :)

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spacioussky replied...
Mar. 10, 2013 at 10:36 pm

Hey- I know exactly what you're going through.
I'm in the same boat, save that I'm pan and not a lesbian. Being told that "you don't know who you are yet" is one of the most hurtful things anyone can be told- LGBT* or not. Honestly, ignore your mom. I know it sounds awful, but because she's either A) misunderstanding or B) in denial, she's not going to be of any support at all. Find a supportive person/ Ally and come out to them first- someone you know is supportive, and then explain the situation to them. Then, after you know you've got someone in your corner, talk to your mom again. Explain to her that youv'e known for a a long time, and that no matter what she says or does, this is who you are- and you will never change. Third, after alllll of that, talk to your friend. I would'nt say come out to her right away, but get her opinion on what it means to be LGBT and then tell her how you feel (if there's a positive response). And lastly, don't ever change. People may suck, and may say you don't know who you are, but you do. And you are 100% awesome.
Message me if you need anything. <3

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Literature_Darling replied...
Mar. 15, 2013 at 9:48 pm

Being in love with your best friend is hard. No matter what people say about moving on, or ruining your friendship, it doesn't help. It's painful to look at them because you know that you can't have them. Yet, in all honesty, feelings pass. Your attraction will move onto someone else, given time. (it took me seven years) But right now, it is about soldiering on.

As far as your mom not believing you. Sometimes parents want a certan life for thier kids, and when it doesn't work out that way, they try to deny it. Give it a little time, and talk to her again. But remember, your mom loves and no matter what she says she is doing it because she thinks it is right for you. Also remember that God loves you. Whether you are a lesbian or not. You have someone to rely on who is always there for you.

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ratchet replied...
Mar. 18, 2013 at 1:46 pm

I'm 14 and bi. It's better to be out than to be in the closet, trust me. If your friends truly love you, they will accept you

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