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CTS207This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. posted this thread...
Sept. 3, 2012 at 6:48 pm

Funny how usually I'm the one giving advice and now I am in need of it, lol. Well let me ask your opinion, ladies. Communication via texting what is the max amount of time between the last text and a new text that would be count as being a creeper or being labed as overly-attached.
As I am not  a creep or overly-attached but the particular lady I am interested in didn't text me back about plans to hang out. An hour after her  last text, I sent a simple "hello?"and have still recived no reply.
It has been 6 hours since I have last heard from her and I fear I may have chased her off. But that wouldn't make sense since we hung out before and everything went fine, as I recall....but still would a second text in this situation be too much or what?
 

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encupcake replied...
Sept. 4, 2012 at 12:58 pm

Has she replied yet?

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CTS207This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Sept. 4, 2012 at 3:08 pm

She did turns out she had a migraine and had to sleep for four hours or so. Other evidence in our conversations seem to suggest that we are just friends...oh well.
Still my question remains in texting what is the difference between a creep and the overly-attached?

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Sept. 4, 2012 at 9:30 pm

we r in the same boat here, haha. U give me advice I'll give for u? I'm a girl, so I think I can help. Whenever I text a guy, I love it when he texts back immediatly because it makes me feel like I'm his focus. If he doesn't text back right away, or not for a long time, I don't freak, tho, I just assume something happened, not that he randomly decided to stop talking to me. It's actually really hard to tell between a creeper and someone's who's just overly-attached. My advice would be just to really proof-read what you text, not just hit send right away. Sorry, haha, I'm not sure if i answered this really well, it's a pretty hard question. Um, so, here's mine: Are guys usually pretty straight forward when they text? Does "Hey" really mean "hey?" or is there something else there? What about smiley faces??

God, texting is so complicated XD

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CTS207This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Sept. 4, 2012 at 10:17 pm

Thank you for replying, you actually made a very valid point. It is hard to tell over texting the difference between the two. Hence my rule #27, Never say anything significantly important over texting.
It's the #1 worse form of communication ever invented when it comes to something really important. Now let me return the favor; it really depends on the guy and the context of your conversation. I usually see the capital "H" in "Hey" as ether enthusiastic. But often it's spell check forcing it to be capitalized.  As for smiley faces they are more  meaningful and clear.  So yeah I hope that helps, and thank you.
 
( also if anyone sees this post later on, please feel free to express your opinion on this matter, especally if you're a woman. Thank you)

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NiallsGirl replied...
Sept. 6, 2012 at 11:34 am

You're a guy?          

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NiallsGirl replied...
Sept. 6, 2012 at 11:34 am

You're a guy?          

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JamieNicole replied...
Sept. 7, 2012 at 12:06 am

Ok so I totally worry about answering too quick. I'll usually respond quick but to not seem soo attached I wait a minute. I swear it kills me sometimes to wait. I would love for him to reply between 1 to 5 minutes after that I just forget about it. I'll see you text but I'll answer when I want to. Oh and a tip if you have to leave or do something tell the girl. That's what happened to me today I asked him a question and no response.

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loveissmilesThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Sept. 10, 2012 at 8:41 am

ok, just saying there is a difference between it being vcute when a guy text back immediately. I hate it just like every other girl when a guy will just stop texting or takes like a half an hour to respond, however, i can't stand it when im trying to reply, and a guy is blowing up my phone while im trying to respond to him or do something, like homework. It really helps if you know what they are doing when you are texting. For example, if you (guy) text a girl and she says she is getting ready to do something or go somewhere, what that really means is that she is kinda busy, so she may respond a little slow, but she is willing to take time out of her day to talk to you. idk i dont like texting, i prefer to keep it old school, and write actual notes, they are more personal, and they cant say someone else wrote it. hope this helps!

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CTS207This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Sept. 10, 2012 at 9:48 am

Yes, I am why do you ask?

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CTS207This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Sept. 10, 2012 at 9:49 am

Thanks for the tip

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CTS207This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Sept. 10, 2012 at 10:00 am

True, on a list of The Worst Forms of Communication the list goes like this: Texting, Instant Messaging, Writing (including E-mails), Phone,Skype (video chat). The best and still old schol is face to face.  Thank you all who have contributed thus far, please don't stop contributing to this thread.
The question still remains, what is the prefered amount of response time taken between text messages?
Thanks to the contributions above we have illustrated that there are two extremes, too much and too little. In these extremes the response time is ethir an 1 hr or more, versus multiple  messages in a matter of seconds without waiting for a response. Both extremes clearly no one (I.E both men and women) do not like. In so the question remains what is the perfered response time?
 

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JamieNicole replied...
Sept. 10, 2012 at 10:02 am

Between 5 minutes. The occasional mishap like your mom told you to do something is totally understandable,but try to tell the person. :)

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CTS207This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Oct. 12, 2012 at 6:25 pm

Very true, due to service problems, my friends and I had concluded 20 minuits being the max amount of time to wait for a response before resending previous text or a hello?

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TokenGrady replied...
Oct. 20, 2012 at 7:58 am

I don't know if you're still seeking advice but I'm in a long distance relationship so I think I know a little bit about this. I'm a girl too. ;) 
When I was in a relationship face to face I constantly obsessed over whether I was too attached or not waiting enough and all of that. My friend (a guy) told me to be "hard to get" and not tell my boyfriend when I was busy so that if I stopped replying it would give the guy a bit of a challenge and make him more interested. 
To be very honest, I'm not a fan of these kinds of games. I think that replying straight away is not a crime, girls like that they are in your focus. But if she is not replying as quickly as you are she is obviously busy and I think that means you should try and make yourself busy too.
Hear me out. Me and my boyfriend talk a lot. Every single day for HOURS on end. We have mutual feelings for each other and neither of us worry about cheating or anything like that because everything is genuine. I don't have to worry. But what I DO worry about is our lives. I have noticed, the longer we are in a relationship, how much my life is beginning to surround him and less around where I am. We are in different countries and yet all I can think of doing is coming online and talking to him. This is where it goes too far. What I am learning to do is balance him, and my life. 
And regardless of whether it's long distance with you or not, I think it's the same thing. You need to respect the fact that she has a life, and so do you. Live it. Don't constantly wait for someone's text. If you do, imagine what happens if it all ends wrongly? You will feel like your life is over because you worked it all around her. You need to continue your OWN life. 
I hope you get what I'm saying. It may be confusing since I'm still learning myself. :)

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CTS207This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Oct. 29, 2012 at 3:07 pm

I get you, balnce communication w/life and your beloved = a better life and...well everything else attached to it, lol. Life lessons never end a?

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Nov. 3, 2012 at 11:57 am

Well, I don't answer texts for about a week, because my phone is broken and turns itself off, so it takes me forever to even recieve texts... but even if it didn't, I only answer about half of them, and I answer in about 48 hours. 

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