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Music_Only_MakesMeStrongerThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. posted this thread...
Jul. 15, 2012 at 8:53 pm

What age do u think it's okay to lose ur viriginty? Is waiting until ur married too "old-fashioned"? Or do people who sleep with someone before marriage considered wrong? Just want to hear some opinions :) :) :)

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gracegirl29 replied...
Jul. 15, 2012 at 9:09 pm

I don't think that waiting until marriage is too old fashioned, and personally, it's what I plan to do. I think that se.x is something with a lot of physical and emotional consequences that most teens aren't ready for, including me. But I think it's a personal decision and it's definitely not for me to judge the decisions that other people make.

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Taphephobia replied...
Jul. 15, 2012 at 11:23 pm

Honestly, I'm not sure I've met someone who had s.ex before marriage that didn't regret it....

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Bekah.rainbow_dash replied...
Jul. 16, 2012 at 9:34 am

Personally, I intend to never have se.x before marriage. I don't think that's old-fashioned at all! The reason I'm waiting though, is very much based on my religious beliefs. However, I also think it's showing self-respect to wait. Not just throwing away your vir.ginity on someone you're not necessarily planning on staying with your whole life. So, that's my opinion! =)

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TheMajestic replied...
Jul. 17, 2012 at 5:40 pm

Personally I take life as it comes. If I feel something special for someone and something happens then so be it. I do agree that having sex for the first time with your partner or spouse is always special. After all you do choose to be with one person for the rest of your life. There's not really a perfect anwser given to us by society or our parents to when is the right age to be having sex. If your old enough to understand what it means and the consequences sex can bring and you know how to protect yourself then your ready...

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Jul. 19, 2012 at 12:38 am

I think it all depends on the person and whether they're ready or not. You can't base your own feelings on "old fashion" traditions or others' judgements. If you're ready, then you're ready [:

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TheCapturedBatThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jul. 20, 2012 at 1:34 pm

I don't think you should wait to have sex until you are married. However, that doesn't mean you should just throw your virginity away. I think the time you should give it up depends on the way you intend to do it and the nature of your relationships. I think that your specific circumstances determine when it is time to lose your virginity.

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TheaterGirlThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jul. 21, 2012 at 11:25 am

ya my bff tried and she had to stop cause it hurt WAY to much. She was in pain for about a week after. BTW she is 16

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ambnyc replied...
Jul. 22, 2012 at 6:12 pm

It's always a personal choice, but s.ex before marriage is fine. It is one of the most intimate ways to connect to your l.over. Why wouldn't you do it? What's stopping you? It's as natural as eating or breathing.

Of course if you choose to wait until marriage that's okay too. But just remember this anecdote that my friend told me: When her grandmother was on her deathbed, she was asked if she had any regrets. One of those regrets was that she'd only "been" with one person her entire life.

These outdated concepts of v.irginity = purity are just created to oppress females, in my opinion. There's nothing wrong with s.ex before marriage. It does not make you a w.hore.

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ambnyc replied...
Jul. 22, 2012 at 6:12 pm

It's always a personal choice, but s.ex before marriage is fine. It is one of the most intimate ways to connect to your l.over. Why wouldn't you do it? What's stopping you? It's as natural as eating or breathing.

Of course if you choose to wait until marriage that's okay too. But just remember this anecdote that my friend told me: When her grandmother was on her deathbed, she was asked if she had any regrets. One of those regrets was that she'd only "been" with one person her entire life.

These outdated concepts of v.irginity = purity are just created to oppress females, in my opinion. There's nothing wrong with s.ex before marriage. It does not make you a w.hore.

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8tephanie replied...
Jul. 22, 2012 at 7:48 pm

"I



have heard it so many times from both guys and girls. “You



don’t buy a car without test driving it first.”



It sounds like a solid reason for having sex. I mean you



want to know if you are compatible sexually before you lock



yourself into that exclusive forever-type relationship.



But not everything that sounds logical makes good sense



when you really think about it.

Let’s



break the logic down and see what is really being said.



It’s not as black and white as people think it is.



















Holding





hands = Looking at the car. Running your hands over





the hood.




















Kissing





= Sitting in the seat. Grabbing the steering wheel.




















Heavy





making out = Starting the car. Turning all the dials.





Wiping your feet on the carpet. Spilling a drink in





the seat.




















Touching,





kissing, fondling, groping, anything besides intercourse





= Scratching the paint. Breaking the window. Poking





holes in the seat.




















Sex





(oral, intercourse, anything else) = Driving the car





like crazy. Putting major miles. High speeds. Running





over curbs. Totally ragging out the car.













Would



you buy a beat up old used car at a new car price? Think



about it. Would you look at this car that is all scratched



up with dents and high miles on it, pay the full sticker



price and think, “Wow, what a great deal!” No



way. But that’s exactly what happens when you get



into sex without being married. When you keep having sex



and pushing further and further what you are actually doing



is turning yourself into a used car. Then you are expecting



someone to come along and make a full price commitment for



a ragged out, used car."

~ Dateable

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Sparrowhawk replied...
Jul. 23, 2012 at 6:06 pm

Ambnyc: Wow, you basically said what I would have. I agree completely with you. However, I doubt I'll have s.ex for a long time yet (and I'm 14, anyway.) because I'm definately not ready. I think it just depends on if you feel ready and don't go about it in a dangerous way. Not marriage or not, though that does work for some people.

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Riptide replied...
Jul. 23, 2012 at 7:22 pm

i'm a guy, and strange as it seems, s.ex is the very least of my concerns. am i virgin? absolutely, its something i'm proud of. it means im not like the vast majority of guys who threw theirs away. would i give mine up before marriage? yes i would. why? because my girlfriend means more than life to me. and its the ultimate way of expressing my love for her, but it'll be her decision when, not mine

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Bekah.rainbow_dash replied...
Jul. 24, 2012 at 8:48 am

Riptide:

Out of curiosity, (you don't have to answer if you don't want to,) at the time, do you feel like you want to be with the girlfriend you're with now for the rest of your life?

'Cause it really sounds like you love her a lot, and I'm impressed.

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Riptide replied...
Jul. 24, 2012 at 12:04 pm

Bekah-

 

I absolutely do. She treats me amazingly and i do everything i possiblly can to make her happy. and when the time comes, whenever that may be, i'm thinking about proposing to her

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Jul. 24, 2012 at 2:47 pm

Ur girlfriend is very lucky :) Good luck

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Riptide replied...
Jul. 24, 2012 at 3:15 pm

^-^ thank you for that. i actually met her in this forum

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Jul. 24, 2012 at 6:52 pm

That's so sweet :D It's like a modern day fairytale (in a good way, not a weird way >_<)

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Giratina replied...
Jul. 24, 2012 at 10:15 pm

GO RIPTIDE THE PRINCE!!!!!!MARRY HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

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LEIGHACOURTNEY replied...
Jul. 25, 2012 at 2:28 am

Waiting untill you get married isnt old fashion. But having sex before isnt the worst thing you could do. Just make sure you don't do it out of pressure. If the person your with is pressuring, it aint worth it. Make sure your in love before you do it though not with someone you have only been with for a few months. And it doesn hurt as bad as people say it does the first tim, or so I've been told. I am not a virgin, but I lost my virginity in a very sad way. But I waited tell I was engaged, with was about three years ago before I 'willing' lost my virginity. And yeah we ended up not lasting but I dont regreat it. Sex before marrige does not equal you to bee a whore, and the age limit only you can decide. Its all up to you hunn. My mom always told me, "Your body, your choice." Keep that in mind.

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