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Best Friend Issues.

B.F.A.B posted this thread...
Jul. 8, 2012 at 11:47 pm

I used to tell my best friend everything. The guy I was currently crushing on my dreams my issues I mean EVERYTHING. Well recently she started to drift away first I didn't understand because we have been friends since second grade when I moved. Well about half way through the school year she started talking to one of my other friends who relayed everything said to me. And I learned that my best friend was calling me a b**** behind my back. I confronted her and she lied to me. But she told her mom and skipped how she really did call me a b****. Well her mom brought her to our club that night and stayed and confronted me not my friend her MOM. Well, her mom wouldnt listen to me she was all 'my daughter would never speak like that.' when I finally got my friends mom to leave the room I asked my friend if she did call me a b**** and she said that she had and told me how it 'slipped' out which I would have believed except that she did it 3times after the first. So i have a very hard time believing that. So shes lying to me, her mom, and who knows who else. Shes starting to act really sluty and practically jumps on every guy she sees and shes really perverted. I love my friend but I don't want to be friends with someone who has to lie and act as somthing shes not . I need help any advice would be great! Thanks!

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SmileOnThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Feb. 25, 2013 at 6:51 pm

Look, I'm gonna say this right out in the open: I feel for you. Most girls don't deserve this confusing, difficult look on friendships.

I'm assuming your friend is just going through a rough stretch. I mean, how many girls suddenly start acting desperate and needy for a guy for no reason? Exactly. Do you know if your friend is having any issues at home, school, anything? And the thing about calling you a b**** and lying to her mom... she's really trying to cover it up. You've got to talk to her. That's the only way you'll ever have a stable friendship with her again. If she still doesn't stop the backstabbing... I'm sorry, but you might have to let her go on her own path. People change, and your friend might be one who goes through big changes.

I hope I helped and wish you the best!

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Kenrichi replied...
Feb. 25, 2013 at 10:51 pm

Well you could always endure the phase she's going through and try to help her. Because she might have problems at home or perhaps a break up hurt her real badly. The easier path that you could chose is to keep drifting away from her and find another person to become your best friend because people change for the good and for the worst so its not your fault that she didn't change for the better. Before you decide what to do, I suggest you think about how much you really cherish your best friend and if you want to go along with helping her, after all why waste a long term friendship like that.

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Meghan144 replied...
Mar. 27, 2013 at 9:08 pm

I'm really sorry to hear what's going on between you and your friend. Personally, when I was in 6th grade I was really horrible to my friend. Not in the same way as you described, but still pretty bad. I don't kno why, I just did. Maybe it is a phase like it was for me. Give her some space for a while. Don't be mad at her, and don't say anything mean back. Find some other friends to grow close with. If she doesn't get nicer, maybe it is time to stick with the new friends. However, it could be a phase, and if it is, it is important to be there for her when she grows out of it. I know that, during the next summer, I felt really bad, and I called her up to apologize. She was really understanding, and now we are still friends. We aren't in any of the same classes anymore, so I don't see her, but we are still much closer than we were. It may be the end of a harmful freindship, or it could be the start of a much better one. Give her a chance for a while, but if you get the feeling it's going to last, break away quickly. Just remain distant until then.
Sorry about my vauge answer, but I don't really know how to word it...

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Mar. 28, 2013 at 9:46 am

i know how you feel, my best friend moved away and  decided to ignore me, then he decided too spread rumors through text to my friends here, but now we're talking again and rebuilding a relationship. just wait sooner or later she'll figure out what she is doing is wrong, i'm sorry but that's all i can help you with from experience:)

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mnm08This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Apr. 4, 2013 at 1:16 am

If there's anything I've learned about friendships, true friends are really hard to find but once u find them u better hang on and don't let go. However, there are certain people that come into our lives that it might seem like things click and lock into place at first, but really in the long run u realize that they are not who u thought they were.. and sometimes ... i know it can be hard.. but sometimes u just have to let go, because u can't continue a friendship in frustration and anger. Unless things can be sorted out for the better, it's probably best to find other people that are real friends, people that genuinely care and will be there for u :) 

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