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Just want to ask how old everyone here has to be to date. This is a long-going battle with my parents to decide on a age, and I want to get an idea of whats normal (ish)?
My mom says as long as im not dating some phyco she is ok with it and im almost 15
My mom was pretty chill about it....she never really told me I couldn't date until a certain age. She just wanted me to wait until I was ready to date, you know? And making that be my decision really opened my eyes about whether or not I should if the opportunity arose. That was back in like sixth or seventh grade, now I'm almost seventeen, and that has worked well for me.
My friends who are homeschooled and whose parents are chistians. They let their kids date by 15 or 16. Which I do agree with, but I'd add this to it; a certain level of maturity. Now considering all things we hear on the news and see on the web. It is of no wonder why your parents are in a debate over it. Just listen and demonstrate that you are ready. I am sure they'll come to a conclusion. Well in reality their called Healthy and non-Healthy relationships. The 'perfect one' by TV's standards, you may catch such moments every now and then but it's important to recognize there is no script in life. It's all a matter of timing and the right people.
My parents are making me wait until I turn 16 before I can actually "date" which to them is going out on dates and such. However, if I do like a boy and he is a good guy then we can hang out at school events and there are okay with me saying that he is my boyfriend which they dont consider that really dating.
My parents have told me I'm allowed to date when I'm in 10th grade, but they know who I like (who likes me back) and they're okay with us hanging out and going to movies and school events togeather. You might want to ask your parents their definition of dating. I asked my mom and she wouldn't tell me, which makes me wonder...
My parents don't want me to date. And I'm find with that! I don't really think dating's the right way to go. But if I DID agree with dating, which I'm ok with it in some situations, I'd say 17. That way you're old enough to actually be thinking more seriously about marriage in the future. Personally, I think dating at 13 or 14 is ridiculous, but I mean no offense to anyone who does date at that age. Its just... It's not like you can marry any time soon, or start a serious relationship that young!
My parents and my church says 16. But I bend the rules quite a bit and have been since I was 13... and my parents don't really care. Yay for me!
I think that people shouldn't date until they're 16 or so . . . or even older. And then both people should be prepared for what they're getting into. Or if they are younger, they should be more mature. Because normally, people dating when they are younger adn not ready ends badly or really never was "dating". So, I think older is better.
To be honest... at least 15+... any younger and it's sorta messed up. And I'm in the 14 and under and sadly I have "Dated" guys. But when you date, there is a maturity involved... and that you have to make a comentment to that relastionship you are in. You arent supposed to go out with the person and then dump then the next day cause you don't like somethin... But anywho yea 15+ is most likely the best ages
I don't think dating should be at a certain age. I don't think you should date unless your mature enough to have a serious relationship . In which you can work through your problems. And if you are mature enough to date someone you need to be able to break up with them in person not through the phone or on the internet or through someone else. You need to be able to do it yourself.
im not allowed until 16
AT the would be librarian:
I'm thirteen and can date. Dont worry, I'm not offended, I just think you kind of missed the point of dating. In seventh and eighth grade you dont think about getting married... you think about having fun and going places with someone you really like. :)
Oh, I don't have a problem with hanging out with people (even the opposite gender) you like! My problem is with teens that are getting really involved, (kissing, sometimes s.ex, and stuff like that,) and they have no intention of marriage in the future.
I've gotten weird looks (or comments) about this before, but I've got pretty strict principles, when it comes to things like dating, staying p.ure until marriage, etc. I believe that God created intimat.e relations for inside marriage only.
So, *shrugs* that's me. That's what I think. I don't think dating should be outlawed or something, I just think that if people have to date, it should be when they're old enough to actually think about marriage.
Note: I hang out with friends who are boys! Not just me and them, but I get together with a mixed group of friends all the time. There's just nothing romanti.c going on. (I'm 15, by the way.)I've put dots in some words because I'm not sure what gets filtered or not.
At thewouldbelibrarian: In my opinion, dating is a learning experience. I didn't get my first serious boyfriend until I was fifteen, but sometimes I wish I'd been younger. Because if you don't date at all when you're a teenager, how are you supposed to know what to do when you're actually thinking about marriage? And for the record, I know a lot of couples who are juniors or seniors in high school or even freshmen in college who started dating in middle school, when they were 13 or 14. Tell me those aren't serious relationships. My basketball coach, who is twenty-four, met her current boyfriend when they were fifteen or so, and they have been dating for about eight years, I can't remember exactly. So there ya go.
Well I'm not allowed to date until I'm 18 & I'm 16 now. I do however have a boyfriend who I've been with for 2 months now. My mom knows who he is, lets him bring me home from school, hang out with him, etc. But she doesn't know we're an official couple, she just knows we like each other. Dating at a young age is something I would stray away from because like some others said, dating at a really young age can be pointless. But I dis have a middle school math teacher who dating her now husband from age 15 til they were 22 and now have been married for 37 years. So Sometimes dating young can be a good thing, but I think an okay dating age is around 15-17, depending on the childs maturity level.
Before you can love anybody else, you need to love yourself first. Also depends on maturity, and the way you handle things. Cause if things get out of hand, and you wouldnt know what to do, then I wouldnt think you are ready. Dating is also finding yourself, and finding out who you really are... Before anything, I would say before dating somebody, you should become "best friends" because thats who you wanna marry. And that is what dating is, looking for marriage. Yes, dating can be just for fun, but in the end, thats what you are doing, is looking for the one.
well my parents say i have to be 16, thats like two years from now. but i don't want a boyfriend now because almost all middle school relationships end up breaking up within three days-to three weeks. so i'm happy with 16, so i can drive to my dates and not rely on my parents to drive me and ask me embarrasing questions lol
@ thewouldbelibrarian. I totally wasn't checking this for so long but I just saw your reply and wanted to say I think that's awesome! And yeah, I get kind of annoyed when my friends are just going around "dating" and "breaking up" with people. Anyway those are great values and it's really special that you stick to them (:
girl, i"m with you! for those of you who date, i admire when you stick to your parent's guidelines, that shows your respect and love for them. those rules are because they love you! sometimes we only realize that later after we've gone off and done our thing and gotten hurt when we didn't listen =/ i'm older and don't date; i think the dating pattern for all these teens can be destructive. if ur just going out because you're attracted to eachother and want to have fun, those aren't a good foudation for a lasting relationship. TRUE love. dating around just makes your relationships casual and sets you up for heartbreak and future problems like divorce. people just don't take marriage seriously enough and this is why: where's the commitment? Also i think it's good for a girl to wait for the right guy to pursue her - in my experience the other way around doesn't usually work out. and don't settle for just anyone; only consider someone you'd want to spend your life with. even now i enjoy being single and having freedom, having guy as friends and in the meantime waiting for the right guy to come after me. when we're both ready i know he will. and it"ll be worth the wait.