My boyfriend and I live 17 or so hours away while driving. I want to ask my parents if he can fly down to visit some weekends, and possibly vice versa. I especially want him to come for my school's Homecoming this fall (he goes to an all-boys school so he doesn't have one). I don't know how to ask though...my sister thinks it won't be a problem and that they'll probably say yes. I thought I'd ask someone else for advice :) How should I ask them?
You should just ask them straight out and directly. Whatever answer they give, even if there's a 50/50 chance it'll be a no, you should respect that. Have they met him before? If not, there's a chance they might be uncomfortable about that.
Thank you :) They have met him, they absolutely love him. He's already a member of the family; he came over nearly every day the last few weeks of the summer when we were in the same place. Thanks for your reply, it helped me see there's probably no need to worry :)
That's great! :) How long have you 2 been dating?
Thanks :) Hmm. Officially, for about a month. Unofficially, all summer haha.
I think everything should be fine. My sis's boyfriend comes over to our house to hang out for hours when he's here and my parents are fine with it so I bet if your parents like the guy, they'll be fine with him going to Homecoming with you.
As long as he pays for his own air ticket and finds his own lodging?
Some parents dont mind paying for their children's significant other's plane ticket but I'm not sure about yours.Whatever happens, say, if they say no, try to negotiate. Don't yell at them, ask them why not and just be cool with it because parents tend to change their minds... at least mine do but I hope everything will go smoothly for you!
they said yes :)
yayyyyyyyyyyyy!:)))))) hahaha so i guess its good with ur boyfriend and my future husband doesnt know yet lol;) <3
ahhhhhh tell him hahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if you don't think you can tell him in person try calling him or writing him a letter
i dont want to bother him...
If he's your friend then it isn't bothering him!!!
Ohh... well i dont want to..... ummmm.... gosh! ill think of some reaosn not to tell him as soon as i can and get back to you ok?;) hahaha seriously thou... im so nervous!!! on our last day of choir tour he came up and picked me up in his arms and swang me around and set me back down and hugged me for a long time... i was like on top of the world right then... and he pulled away and told me that if i ever needed to talk to him that he was there for me and right there, i was looking into his eyes and my heart was pounding and i almost kissed him... right there... on stage where everyone was giving their goodbyes... almost... i held myself back... but i wanted to so bad... it took all i had not to... and then he went back in for a hug and i put my head on his shoulder and cried... and he deosnt get all nervous when i cry in front of him... he just sets me in his lap on the floor and holds me until i can stop.. just rubbing my back and holding me close... hes definatly TOO good for me! idk y he never has a girlfriend! anyy girl would be LUCKY to have him... hes amazing:)<3
You could've kissed him...quickly...no one would've noticed ;)
Honestly, stop sitting there all smiley and shy and DO SOMETHING!! Make a move! Sometimes the girl has to and yes, it's awkward, but oh well, you never know until you try. For all you know you guys could end up going out for I dunno only foreverr, but we'll never know until you woman up and realize that he's gonna need a little help rising to the occasion! Someday you may be really glad you did :)
(Most of the above was almost verbatim of advice given to me a while ago by a best friend and I think that it fits quite nicely in this situation ;)Don't you ever, ever, EVER say that a guy's too good for you. Ever. It's impossible. Got that :) ?
Well maybe its not impossible... Em you should meet him! Hes perfect in every way... and im.... me.... plus i dont just go around kissing people just because i feel the urge! Haha!:) plus how do youknow that im sitting here all smiley? I might not be! I mean I am but still! thanks for the attempt thou:)
I'd love to meet him haha. Too bad you live in TX....and I don't :/ Yeah, you ARE you. In the best way possible. You still should've kissed him. You neeeddddd to tell him how you feel. Just write him a letter. Is he the kind of guy that appreciates that sort of thing? And I assumed you were sitting there all smiley because, one, I know these things, and two, he makes you smile. Also because that's what I would be doing :)
ohh haha well just thinking about him makes me smile..... makes my heart flutter... i get major butterflies around him..............:D and yeah i think he would appreciate a letter but im a loser Em! a scare loser... i cant do it! well i have written him letters confessing my love for him before.. but i never sent them or got them to him i would pour my heart out admire it and then put it thru the shredder... and i have one that i didnt shred and its kinda... well its like a suicide letter kind of but i wrote letters out to everyone that I wanted to apologize to or say something important to before i did the s-word and i ended pouring out my heart in it and telling him everything but i have no envelopes so i cant you-know-what yet...
SUICIDE IS NOT THE ANSWER. It's just a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
Find an envelope. Send the letter.I strongly, STRONGLYYYYYY believe that you can do it. I truly do.
but ive lost too much already... i cant lose him too.... hes the one thing that keeps me going and i need him... i cant turn him away... :'(
What else have you lost? I don't think it'll turn him away. You could say something like, "I really wanted you to know how I feel about you but if you don't feel the same way (EXTREMELY UNLIKELY, BTW) I don't want this to change anything between us."