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Sorla_the_Space_Cowboy posted this thread...
Nov. 2, 2012 at 10:21 pm

Alright, what is up with the emo trend? I've been seeing these almost goth like kids for years, and I don't know what their deal is. They aren't goth, most of the goth people I've met are hard core and quite dark and scary, these emo kids are spineless. They get mad when I call them goth, but I would think that's a compliment to them cause they want to BE goth, right? Or do they think they're better then goth people? And I really don't understand why life is so terrible in their eyes, I mean some parts suck but the good parts make up for it, and most of them are middle class suburban dwellers anyways so it's not like their lives are tough or anything. They also hate blondes and think everyone who doesn't dress like them is "fake". And I can't tell you how many times I've gotten into pointless arguments with them for calling out their contradictions. The weird part is how they're combative and passive at the same time, they're quick to insult me, take everything personally, and back off when I offer to fight them if they're so mad about it. Everything about them is confusing to me, I feel like I'm trying to communicate to a different planet or something. What is the deal with emo kids? 

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Nov. 6, 2012 at 1:48 pm

Um, first I'd like to say that emo is a life style not a fashion. Second, those emo kids aren't the real deal. Emo isn't trying to be goth. They don't think they're better than anyone. They look at life differently and yes they are more in touch with their emotions. That doesn't make them spineless. So all emo's are like the posers that say they are. Emo's don't go around saying "I'm emo" that's fake.

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Nov. 6, 2012 at 1:50 pm

Oh and they don't hate blondes. Lots of them dye their hair blonde or highlights with different colors including blonde. They don't hate everyone that doesn't dress with them. They just accept the fact that not everyone treats them nicely.

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Nov. 6, 2012 at 1:50 pm

Oh and they don't hate blondes. Lots of them dye their hair blonde or highlights with different colors including blonde. They don't hate everyone that doesn't dress with them. They just accept the fact that not everyone treats them nicely.

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Sherlocked replied...
Nov. 18, 2012 at 4:59 pm

First off. Just because someone dresses a certain way doens't mean they hold certain beliefs about society, life, religion or anything.
Secondly, when they get mad about people calling them goth that's understandable. I don't think anyone really appreciates being labeled. Especially since most people frown on the idea of someone being 'goth'.
Thirdly, I'm glad you came on here to sort out some of your misconceptions. Emo kids are usually kids who were bullied in younger grades and felt isolated. Instead of feeling forced away from their peers they decided to "banish" themselves with the way they dress. Or something they merely like the style of clothes.I just like the clothing style.
 
Myths: All emos cut, they're all cynical, dark etc.
 
^ those are important stereotypes to stay away from.

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Snow-White-Queen replied...
Dec. 26, 2012 at 10:47 pm

Probably most of the emos you're describing aren't really 'emo'. Like Amiee said, they don't go around boasting that they're emo. They're basically, once again like Amiee said, more in touch with their emotions. Hence the name emo. That makes them sometimes more sensitive, but isn't nearly everyone sensitive to being labeled, as Sherlocked suggested? Nobody really appreciates their beliefs and personality being judged by someone who doesn't actually know them. And of course, not everyone always has a happy outlook on life. Sometimes you have to put yourself in their position, maybe they haven't had all the happy times that make up for the bad ones.

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leeannmartin replied...
Jan. 10, 2013 at 10:44 am

i dont think emo is something you wear its a state of mind some of them out there are want to be us personally i think i love meeting new people not like me i dont wear completly all the time i used to talk about death all the time and i wanted it im still that very very emotional girl but were not all that bad a lot of care and just want to be excepted

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EPluribusUnumThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jan. 19, 2013 at 5:44 pm

First off I'd like to point out that judging someone to their face and then offering to fight them when they get upset (and reasonably so) is just plain rude. And I have a good friend who calls herself emo. She's excitable and funny and maybe a bit quiet when she doesn't know people (okay, more than a bit... more like a LOT), but really the only thing dark about her is her dress and her hair. Except for the time she dyed it blond. And I guess the time she dyed it blue wasn't THAT dark. And you're nuts if you think that the way she dresses and the music she listens to is a comprehensive definition of who she is, any more than loving the color lavendar defines me.
You needn't be so quick to judge.

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EPluribusUnumThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jan. 19, 2013 at 5:45 pm

btw I meant that it was reasonable for them to get upset not for you to fight them.

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Jan. 20, 2013 at 9:12 am

I don't judge anyone that doesn't give me a reason. It's not like I'm going out looking for fights and insulting people because I can. I'd just rather throw a few punches then try and explain to an emo kid that they're being hypocritical. One thing I can't stand is when someone isn't being straight up with me. I'm not judging them, I'm making an acute observation that they can choose to either be mature about or rant to their friends about. I've only fought one emo kid before, she was a girl with pink and black hair and a bad attitude. She had brass knuckles, and was under the impression that she was very hardcore and could take on the world. I've fought a few goth kids as well, and generally I've found them to be all talk, but more eager to fight then an emo kid. Punks give me a run for my money though, they actually know what they're doing. I've heard that thing about judging from emos as well, they assume that because I get confused and angry about their personalities and mannerisms that I'm judging them, being a conformist, and blah blah blah. I've just met to many genuine people with real causes to fight for that I can't take these middle class emo kids seriously. They're all talk. 

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EPluribusUnumThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jan. 21, 2013 at 4:38 pm

First of all, class doesn't always matter in the whole of a person's life. I get what your saying, they're not dirt poor, but you don't know what their home life is like and there's a hell of a lot more to happiness and stability than money, that's for sure. :P ANd I didn't mean to make it sound like I was trying to gang up on you. Though I do disagree with fighting, I don't really think this is the place to dive into that topic. And theres a difference between fighting and beating someone up, so as long as both people put up a fight, who am I to judge? But maybe you should simply try to be more subtle about understanding people. Looking at how they dress as a group will tell you a little, but if you make a judgement (I'm sorry, but acute observation just sounds like judgement with cooler words) based off of that you may come off as taking away their individuality and that's what tends to p.iss people off. Also, some people just prefer to keep to themselves and their friends. The way a person dresses often reflects on their personality less than you might think. By dressing in a certain style and not necessarily throwing their personalities around people probably aren't trying th be dishonest with you, they just don't feel the need to be understood by people they don't necessarily know or like (not saying that they don't like you, I have no idea about your relationship with them except that borderline fights are usually a bad sign).

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Mar. 23, 2013 at 12:52 pm

I know, it just really makes me mad that they think they're all hardcore, and then at the first sign of danger, they clam up and get timid. I can't stand fake people, it seems like emo kids are just being fake. Money isn't a judge of someone's happiness and stability, but I can guarantee none of those suburb emo kids go home to people passed out on their floor and need to dodge violent relatives or gunshots. They are so sheltered, they don't understand what the world is really like, and they're all dramatic about it. I just don't get it. Some of the worst off people I've met are the brightest and happiest. Emo kids have no right to be as emotional as they are. They have beds, they have food, they have an education, they don't need to worry about making ends meet. It could just be a fashion statement, but then how come they all act the same, and all come from the suburbs. Emo kids are just as much of conformists as the rest of us, maybe even more. 

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kraziekatt.This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Apr. 3, 2013 at 1:59 pm

goth./emo is NOT just for shts and giggles. its notjust a joke or some stupid clothing. its how you live. its a lifestyls. not a trend.  though ppl r faking it lately

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