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May 22, 2012 at 10:28 am

I dress in revealing clothing, but not in what would be considered a "skanky" way. I think there is a difference between revealing and trashy. I like to follow the idea of balancing out a more leggy dress with a jacket on top, or a low cut top with more modest bottoms. And my school has a dress code anyway, so I can't wear tank tops or short shorts during school hours. But I do have a strong view about the whole modesty-in-dressing thing. I believe that our society has a common opinion of "oh, she's dressed like a slut, she must be insecure and just want attention." I dress in revealing clothing because I am the opposite of insecure; I am confident in my own body and I think the human body is beautiful and not something to be ashamed of.

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AnimaCordis replied...
May 28, 2012 at 6:20 am

I still think people should dress as they please, whatever makes them happy. They shouldn't be condemed for their style choice, wither if it's wearing all black, dressing like a pirate, wearing hot pants and a tank top, a burka, dying their hair orange or covering themselves in tattoos. Their choise. It's a free country.

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May 28, 2012 at 12:50 pm

I can't wear anything the ends more than a couple inches above the knee, I just can't. I don't feel comfortable showing too much skin, I'm not even comfortable with showing my belly. I feel weird in a swimsuit.

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sorla replied...
May 28, 2012 at 2:48 pm

To each their own, I personally love the freedom that comes with revealing clothes. I sometimes feel suffocated under lots of layers, so short, strapless sundresses are my go to look. When a guy runs without a shirt, people don't look twice (unless they're hot), so why can't girls wear revealing clothes without being considered trashy. It's a double standard. I'll run down the street naked if I want to god dam.nit! And no one can stop me!

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May 28, 2012 at 5:47 pm

Po.lice will, running naked down the street causes traffic issues. XP

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May 28, 2012 at 5:49 pm

WHAT THE HECK!? POL.ICE is censored?!

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May 30, 2012 at 3:07 pm

@sorla, just because you can put a dot in a word doesn't mean you should use it. I can ignore or tolerate some forms of profanity, but blasphemy really offends me. I understand that you don't think you're doing anything wrong by saying "g-- d-----", but I just want to say that that is really offensive to some people, including me. However, if I had said something say... mean about g.ay people, I would have been jumped on by a million people on here. It's a crazy world, sometimes. =P

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May 31, 2012 at 10:47 am

Ha, I see my comment was deleted. =P And why, may I ask, was mine deleted, and sorla's wasn't? Her's is the one with the offensive language.

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May 31, 2012 at 8:21 pm

What did your's say?

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Jun. 1, 2012 at 11:08 am

I had protested about the offensive language in sorla's comment.

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jackiee129 replied...
Jun. 2, 2012 at 1:47 pm

my personal opinion on clothing is to each their own. I would say I dress more on the revealing side, but I dress for self expression and what makes me comfortable, not because I'm insecure. I can admit that I dress to impress people just as much as everyone else does, but I wouldn't wear something I'm uncomfortable in to draw attention. and ladies, let's face it, showing off a little skin can help get you what you want (not in a s.exual sense!). How many times have you gotten a discount or someone to help you imediately at a store because you were wearing a low cut shirt? I know I make better tips are work when I wear a V-neck. I don't think you should have everything hanging out for the world to see, but wear whatever works for you. My only stipulation is that people (especially women) need to learn to wear clothing that works with and fits their body. If you're a size 8, stop trying to squeeze into a 4. the number shouldn't matter, but how comfortable you are and if the look is flattering.

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hypermagical replied...
Jun. 3, 2012 at 7:53 am

I dress modestly, it is expected of me because of my religion, but I also just don't like the feeling of people looking at my bare skin (it creeps me out). Also, there's a big difference between immodest and just plain indecent. I don't judge people for wearing absolutlely anything they want to wear in a country where that is permitted, I only get upset or bothered by someone's clothing when they're not even wearing as much of it as is required by law.  I'd also like to note that as a person who dresses modestly, I get dissed by other girls- friends and former friends- who seem to be embarrassed to be seen with me. I think this treatment is a double standard coming from a person who complains that no one will let her be herself. I don't think it's right to get upset because someone tells you to cover up (or vice versa), and then ignore someone you know when you're walking down the steet, just because she's not dressed to your standards.

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mercurienne replied...
Jun. 6, 2012 at 4:48 pm

I usually dress rather modestly, partly because my wardrobe is modest and partly because I feel a bit insecure when I show too much skin. I'm not above wearing immodest clothing - I enjoy it sometimes, actually, because it gives me some sense of confidence. What I don't understand is when girls wear immodest clothing in winter - it's FREEZING. 

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ponygalThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Aug. 8, 2012 at 4:08 pm

i wear modest clothing partly because of my religion im LDS or Mormon but also because im a cowgirl and a lot of times we get a bad rep as being slutty so i like prooving that not all of us are that way.

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Bradical replied...
Oct. 13, 2012 at 9:27 pm

First off, I'm a guy. This has been a topic of interest among the girls in my youth group, so I hope I can give you some insight.
1. Do you prefer to see a girl dressed modestly or immodestly? Why?
--I prefer girls to dress modestly. I find classy girls attractive, and I feel like if a girl is going to dress immodestly, she might not feel as commited to being with me or guys might not have as much a of a problem flirting with her in the event we were dating. I also think how a girl dressed is a testement to her character, just as so for a guy.
2. What do you think when you see a girl who dressed immodestly?
-I usually don't think much about it. It has become the social norm in my immediate environment, so I don't find provacative dress particularly arousing anymore.
3. When you are attracted to a girl who dresses modestly, why are you attracted to her?
-I usually pay attention to eyes, smiles, and personalities. I like it when you can stare into someones eyes without either person saying anything and it not being awkward. I also think smiles are wonderful things, and I don't really grade smiles on straightness of teeth, so don't get the wrong idea. Last but not least, to me personality matters. I have to be able to relate to a girl to be attracted to her.
If you're asking this question for yourself, as in how it might apply to you, I would read some passages in the Bible dealing with modesty. It can provide valuable insight. Oh, and remember: Modest is Hottest.

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Shadowcreeper replied...
Oct. 21, 2012 at 8:27 pm

Actually, it does matter what you wear and how many tattoos you got. Because it matters what you do with your body. What you wear should reflect who you are because that's what people see at first glance. Will people want to be your friend if you have bright green hair, tattoos, and dress like a slut? I know I wouldn't. I believe in the freedom to wear whatever you want, but I also try to remember: If i were someone else, and I looked at me, would I want to be friends with that girl?

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Breece6This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Feb. 26, 2013 at 7:06 am

I'm not sure if this thread is still active, or just necroed, but I DON'T CARE I'M POSTING ANYWAYS.
 
I think Modesty is often the best way, I'm a guy and I think we should also remember that in our society, people are being to s.exualize boys and men as well.  Modest goes both ways.  
 
But yes, I dress modestly, I think everyone should.

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CrazyGirl01 replied...
Feb. 26, 2013 at 7:46 am

I dress on the modest side, but not super modest, because a. I like being covered up b. I want people to look at me and judge me as good person. Not saying people that people who dress immodestly are bad people, it's just people are VERY judgmental. 2. I think that people that dress immodestly are either very proud of their bodies and want to show it off- more power to them- or they are very insecure and are trying to attract the attention of those around them to feel better about themselves. Hope I don't offend anybody but that's my opinion. 3. It's their life not mine. If that's how they want to dress, good for them.

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RarelyJadedThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Feb. 28, 2013 at 3:47 pm

I'm a girl.

1. Modestly, because I'm secure enough in myself that I don't need that kind of attention from guys.
2. If its just for fashion, I don't care much. But if its to attract a guy, I think they might be insecure. But it's none of my bizz.
3. I feel nothing:)

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JacquelineM.Grange replied...
Mar. 3, 2013 at 2:31 pm

Modesty is a big issue and I could say so many things about it, I'm actually in the slow proccess of writing an article on it. But with school and everything else the progress isn't as fast as I would like.
I like to dress modestly, it makes me more comftorble because I know I'm doing my best to do God's will be not being a stumbling block of lust to others. Also because it makes me more confidient because a guy won't like me for my body but instead for who I am and by dressing modestly I'm protecting myself from attracting the wrong type of dangerous guy... there are so many reasons to dress modestly. A lot of girls say they don't dress modestly because they can't find modest clothes, however that's just an excuse. I know it's hard, but I still manage to find them, and God never promised it would be easy to follow His will. Another common excuse is that if the guy is tempted with lust because of the way a girl dresses it's his fault. But that's wrong, God commands us to not be a "stumbling block" of sin to others, so we have a duty to God, ourselves and others.
Even though I'm a female,when another girl dresses un modestly it makes me uncomftorble and I don't want to even be seen with her.
A good resource book about modesty is Sexy Girls by Hayley DiMarco

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