In my opinion, I believe "young love" doesn't exist. I believe that a lot of people mistake infatuation for love very often and I believe that that's the reason behind many divorces. I don't understand why people my age jump into relationships. It is basically just friends making out. I mean, let's face it. How many of you out there are looking for husbands at 13-18 years old? That is really the soul purpose of dating. To find a potential mate. So why do people my age jump into these things? Is it for the drama? Because that's usually the result. Is it for self-esteem? Is it to look cool? My opinion is, in order to love someone, you first have to love yourself. That is a difficult thing for teens to learn, but things aren't going to work in a relationship if you don't love yourself and treat yourself well.
The reason for the increase in divorce rates has nothing to do with age. People get married older nowadays - for the most part. Basically, maturity in relationships depends on the person. Some people aren't mature enough for long-term "loving" relationships at 40, let alone 18. I think that your stance really discredits a lot of long-lasting relationships (including my own) that are based on love instead of "drama." How can there be a cut-off line for being emotionally capable of "love"? Like, once you turn...what? 20? 30? Then you're capable of love?
I just don't buy it :P My opinion.
I wasn't saying that divorce rates were based on age. I was saying that they are based on the misinterpretting infatuation for love. I wasn't saying much about the connection with love and age or that someone has to be a certain age. I said that they should have a certain knowledge of themselves and not rush into love. I see a lot of my friends rushing to have relationships and a lot of people breaking themselves over other people so that they can have what they think they need.
I am just confused by the whole rushing to relationships thing
My mom was 16, dad was 17. They just had there 25th wedding anniversary. They both had bad lives. Mom had a verbally abusive dad which made her insecure. Dad didn't have parents that acted like they where parents so he found himself in a world of alcohol, then onto sharing needles. Neither one of them loved themselves, but they sure as heck loved eachother. I don't think your argument is very valid. Also you say "how many people aged 15-18 are looking for husbands?" (Not the exact quote but close enough). Well I happen to be a guy who is looking for a wife, thus why I haven't dated anyone cause I don't see the point in wasting my time on someone I know I wouldn't want to be with the rest of my life. Having a family is one of the most important goals for me.
"That is really the soul purpose of dating. To find a potential mate."
I wholely disagree, ergo I can reject most of your post out of hand.
I agree that many people date each other for reasons I can't personally understand, but their reasons are probably pretty clear in their own minds, and it's honestly not my business why any two given people might be dating. If their reasons are good enough for them, then they're good enough for me, whether or not I understand.
I feel that people have the desire to be wanted, to be needed, and to be loved. The peers around me don't seem to take their relationships very seriously. This saddens me very much because I believe that love (actual love) is a very special thing.
I feel that if you truly love someone, you should be able to share with them all of the things that are troubling you. Once the door to communication is closed, it is very difficult to have a successful relationship. I think the reason why people struggle to maintain a relationship is because they are afraid to reveal their true colors.
I agree that some people jump into relationships without being truly invested in them, but there are intelligent people of my age that do care about the interactions they have with other people. I hope that people will be more considerate of the feelings they have and will be more open to share these feelings with the people that matter to them.
We are all struggling to find ourselves in this world and sometimes finding someone to share the struggle with helps to enjoy the journey.