Here's what I came up with when I googled it- "Tolerance or toleration is a fair, objective, and permissive attitude toward those whose opinions, practices, race, religion, nationality, etc., differ from one's own; freedom from bigotry." (Wikipedia)
So my definition is about respecting those who disagree and giving them a chance- and yours is about not bombing synagoges. Suddenly all of our conversations are making a lot more sense.
Thank you, stuntddude, for graciously allowing the existence, occurrence, or practice of religion. Thank you for letting Islam, Buddhism, Judaism, Christiantity, and thousands of other belief systems to exist. Thank you for your tolerance of me going to church without physically showing up at my door to threaten me for it.
I was actually using "niceness" in the article's sense of the word, but I think that is interesting. Respect definitely requires niceness, but does tolerance? Hmm.
Chelsea Manning's Statement:
"So my definition is about respecting those who disagree and giving them a chance"
Another working definition, which I also follow. Thank you for you incredibly enlightening commentary that might've cost me a few IQ points had I taken you seriously.
"Might've cost me a few IQ points had I taken you seriously"
Hmm so taking people seriously costs you IQ points? Now I know why you consider yourself so smart ;)
Now stop being a jerk.
Everyone: Can I recommend that anybody who is sick and tired of SDD ignore him? I think it's a good idea. I sure as he.ck am going to until he fixes his attitude problem.
Okay, I'll give it to you that I definitely did set myself up for some sort of pun with that post.
"Can I recommend that anybody who is sick and tired of SDD ignore him?"
The silent treatment/cold shoulder: giving yourself the comforting illusion that you're being the more mature one, since whenever it first became a thing that people did.
Saudi Father Forgives Son's Killer if He... *dun dun dun*
" Can I recommend that anybody who is sick and tired of SDD ignore him? I think it's a good idea. I sure as he.ck am going to until he fixes his attitude problem. "
Yeah. I just recommended that too, and I'm all for it. I'm tired of getting upset with him about stuff.
If everyone who is annoyed by him ignores him... i'd literally be the only person who'd talk to him o^o aklsjdaksdjfjl
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Just......just read it.........IT'S SO TRUE O__O *
Guys... Honestly, SDD can be a bit rude at times but it's not going to help if we give him the cold shoulder. It's like getting fustrated at a math or science problem and then putting it off forever. You don't solve it, you don't learn it. It's not just SDD's fault.
Whatever happened to the "kill them with niceness" rule? Like, don't ignoooore the problem, annihilate it (:< yeah, okay, sorry. I'm totally ....joking.............but yeah :D NICENESS. THE LIGHT WILL OVERCOME THE DARK.
How about, ignore the rude comments, listen to the actual substance of his posts? Just whatever it is, lets stop dwelling on the "problem." I know we all love this forum, but in the end, that's all it is—a forum. What's said here should not affect our lives that much. Live and let live. And beeee happy, preferably with a chocolate bar in hand.
This reply isn't specifically about anyone on this forum, but about what a cold shoulder is.
If someone, let's say X, is being rude, unless X is like 6 years old and my younger brother, it is not my personal job to teach him how to be nice. If X is my younger brother, I do have a duty to try and make him become more polite. I also CAN find out why he is being rude, at least hypothetically.
However, if X is a stranger and online, then rather than starting internet fights which as everyone knows get nowhere, it is far simpler just to ignore the rude posts. It is not my duty to fix everyone who is rude on the internet. If I personally instigated the rudeness, then of course giving the person a cold shoulder is a tad b.itchy, but otherwise it is not really a good parallel to a maths problem, where the only thing that is affecting if I get it right is my persoanl effort.
Anyway. Moving on...
So. Why is this relevant to you, my children?
Well. We need to do this on TI.
"But why?" you cry out.
"Because, my little ones," says I soothingly, "there is too much rudeness being spread around and we need to stop it immediatement."
"But how?" you exclaim.
"Well, my lotus flowers," I reply, "Let us apply a similar technique..."
From now on, let's try to make each of our posts end or begin with a * (an asterisk).
This asterisk is a symbol. You should condition yourself to remember that when you use this asterisk, it means that:
a. The person you are talking to has feelings and is not just a robotic machine, and that it is your duty upon your fellow human being to be kind, open-minded, and polite.
b. That this is a forum consisting of lovely teenagers and not of enemies/aliens
c. That you are not an all-knowing God and that you should be humble of any knowledge that your post may convey.
d. That you have or will filter your post, assuming it is philosophical and not just spam/chat :P, with the three Socratic questions, or the test of three:
1. Is this true?
2. Is this good?
3. Is this useful?
If it is none of the above, then you may want to consider not posting the post.
We are a group on Teenink. Everything we do and posts on here represents us. If we ignored Stuntddude every time he gave us a rude post then what would it look like to the newcomers? What would we look like? Besides that fact, have you thought about all the pros and cons? If you ignore SDD's rude posts all the time there are a few outcomes:
1) He changes and starts posting less rude comments.
2) He leaves TeenInk.
3) He doesn't necessarily change his comments, nor does he leave; instead he stays but talks with people who don't ignore him and don't hate him. This starts a social tension and it ruins Teenink.
And have you tried to understand *SDD*? Even at the very least?
Did . . . . Destinee . . . . . just . . . . say . . . . O.O
HAHAHAHHAHA when I started reading your reply I was like, "This sounds strangely familiar..." then it hit me that I wrote it.
I'm gonna move my response to the Thread of Int. Stuff Spam Thread. K? :) *
Yes.... :/ Sorry.... I guess it's good that you behave as my conscience even when I'm anonymous. :( Now I regret it. *Sigh*
Don't sin kids.
Brown Body, White Wonderland:
(Sorry for spamming this thread, Destinee)
""Can I recommend that anybody who is sick and tired of SDD ignore him?"
I agree with Quantum on this one because we don't want to end up being mean right back at him. But for those of you who do have patience, don't ignore him but if you have to, walk away for a while. I have this one coworker at work who is a general jerk to everyone, gets drunk often and treats people like crap, but he's still a human being, a hurtting soul and for me to alienate him would be more of a sin on my part than what he does.
"The silent treatment/cold shoulder: giving yourself the comforting illusion that you're being the more mature one, since whenever it first became a thing that people did."
SDD, it's called "walking away". People do it not because they hate you, but because they have no wish to say mean things to you and hurt you the way you hurt them.