I want to know our generation's view on self-mutilation and self immolation because it is a major issue. I believe these are wrong, asinine and parsimonious decisions. Let me know what you think.
Sometimes that's all that people can think to do to let out their emotions or whatever they need to do. It's a coping mechanism, albeit a harmful one, and once a person gets addicted to it, it's hard to stop. Most of the time all someone who self-mutilates/self-immulates needs is some encouragement and support to get through their issues, sometimes in the form of counseling and sometimes in the form of friendship.
I have never done it, but I can't say that I haven't been tempted. To me, it does feel like a coping mechanism. A cut is something you can take care of, control, and fix. You choose exactly how big and deep it is, where it is, and it's something to focus on for the next few days while it heals. You clean it, bandage it, etc, and it gets better, unlike other things in you life that you can't control at all.
Self harm doesnt' always necessarily indicate that someone is suicidal, actually. I might also add that the physical pain caused by self harm takes the person's mind off of his or her mental pain. A lot of the time it is pretty selfish, but the person doesn't often think that other people care about him/her, and so believes that it doesn't matter. That OR getting his/her mind off of the current problems is more important, in his/her mind. And like Aeliss said, it gives the person something to focus on as it heals, which therefore gives less time to think about problems.
Look, you asked why and I'm just telling you some reasons why. There is no reason to attack my thoughts and ideas just because you're close-minded and unwilling to think about this subject from another's point of view. If you didn't want to hear opinions, you shouldn't have brought up the subject. I also hope that you aren't attacking people who cut directly ever because they need help and someone who tells them they are self-centered for cutting won't help them.
I'd like to restate the fact that suicide and self-mutilation are not one in the same. On another note, it's often hard, as in a situation like this, to understand some things without experiencing them. I may not have thought that self-harm would be a coping mechanism in the past, but now in my life I'm able to understand that sometimes it is. That's not to say that it ALWAYS is, but saying that self-harm as a coping mechanism is completely wrong is a fallacy because it differs from person to person, quite honestly.
I apoligize that I mistook your thoughts for attacking those who cut. I see I was mistaken, although I beg you to rethink your word choice before you post so that it can't be interpretted that way.
I do it on my hip. It helps me cope for some reason, idk why. I however am not proud of it, nor do I encourage it in others.
Most people I know who cut use it to help control depresion and AVOID suicide.
One more thing, parsimonious? What?
Its not the best choice for sure. But it does help.
It personally makes me feel just a bit better.
read my poem titled PRESSURE
Most teenagers go through a self injury phase which is sad... It's a lot of adolecent girls but I hate the stereotype that says only girls do it. No. I was in an institution twice because of it and I boys that had issues with self harm. And no it doesn't mean you're suicidal. I haven't done it in a couple months and hopefully I won't... But I can tell you it wasn't for death. The feelings of worthlessness and self hate are major in many cases of self injury. Sometimes people do it so that they can FEEL SOMETHING. They're so numb it's all they have... And sometimes they do it to go numb. It isn't a good coping mechanism at all but... It happens. I am personally here for anyone if they ever need to talk. I'd rather someone talk to me than hurt themselves... Because I know what it's like...
i participate in self harm and self mutilization (or i did as of a month ago) and i know that some people do not think it's the right thing to be doing and it's really not a healthy way of coping but its the only way i knew how to cope so i did.
i dont look down on people that have self harmed because i've been there and i battled it for 6 years and it's still a battle for me.
when ever i see someone that i know self harms or self mutilates i just want to run up and give them a hug because i know what it feels like to be there and need the pain to calm you down.
people who self harm and self mutilate need the adrenaline to calm down and sometimes even become addicted to the dopomine in their bodies that s released when they cut.
and no i'm not proud of the fact that i sed to self harm and self mutilate myself. i dont encourage it in others and although it makes me a hypocrite i talk a lot of my friends out of it and help them get over it.
im not proud of the scars i have. i hate them most of the time because they are a constant trigger for me. but i cant do anything about them being there now that they are there and i dont cover them up.