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If you think a person is a homosexual don't ask if there  gay 

EAR_SAP posted this thread...
Feb. 28, 2012 at 9:00 am

I'm a straight man and think it's just rude when people come up to others and ask them about there interest. I also think it's rude when people use the word "faggot" arourd homosexuals it's just uncalled for. I do feel for them.

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Someone_Like_You replied...
Mar. 2, 2012 at 5:32 am

I think that if you know the person well, you could ask them in private and it would be ok. I also think that people just shouldn't use the word "fa.ggot" to begin with. It's mean and judgemential.

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EAR_SAP replied...
Mar. 2, 2012 at 8:12 am

it depends on how long like if the person was your childhood friend then yea it's okay. But if you just, talk to them at lunch or class then it's not okay.

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nomvegannom replied...
Mar. 2, 2012 at 9:02 am

my view is- why does it matter? people are all different and as long as someone loves another it shouldnt matter the gender. i dont understand why people ask, its no one elses buisness but that person. 

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AnimaCordis replied...
Mar. 2, 2012 at 8:06 pm

Obvioulsy fa.ggot is a nasty word to call someome, i personally wouldn't ask someone if they were ga.y or straight becuase that's their bussness. If they want to tell me they can, I don't feel the need to ask them.

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CarrieAnn13 replied...
Mar. 2, 2012 at 10:37 pm

I don't ask people if they're straight, so why would I care if they're not?

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AlisonWonderland replied...
Mar. 28, 2013 at 6:01 pm

Okay my only problem with not asking someone if they're gay is how are other gay people supposed to know? Like it's not we all have a pin to say our sexuality and I'm pretty sure people that are gay don't want to make a move on someone who identifies as straight. That's my only problem with the whole don't ask thing. Gaydar can only go so far.

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Loldawg replied...
May 7, 2013 at 12:13 am

Why would you want to know? The way I see it, as a straight guy, if you like the same sex, thats good for you. Just don't rub it in my face and don't hit on me.

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GleekGamer replied...
May 24, 2013 at 4:18 pm

Personally, I think it depends on the context. I agree with AlisonWonderland: How else are you supposed to know if you're potentially interested? However, if you're asking them straight out in order to judge them or hold it over their heads, yes, that is wrong. Still, we live in a "heterosexual until proven or assumed otherwise" sort of society. What if you are a homosexual person or a heterosexual person with a homosexual friend? Straight people set people up with friends and such. Also, if someone is very, very out of the closet and someone is either out of the loop and just wants to confirm what they've heard, I think that is also appropriate. However, as previously stated, it is not okay to just be like "Hey are you a gay f*g?" or something along those lines. Also, if someone has stated multiple times that they aren't gay or if they haven't come out of the cloest, then it is not appropriate.
Geez, I had a lot to say about that. And I have more to say!

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EPluribusUnum replied...
May 28, 2013 at 7:59 pm

Ugh. I had a random freshman on the bus come up to me and loudly ask me if I'm a lesbian earlier in the school year. I'm very open about my sexuality, but that was just awkward, especially considering I didn't even know the kid.
So yeah, aperantly I've made freshman gossip. Whoop.

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TimeTraveller replied...
Jun. 2, 2013 at 10:32 am

That specific word disgusts me, in a way that it's really insolent and I detest how teens nowadays take it very leniently. As for sexuality, I think it's nobody's business to find out who the other person sleeps with. It's rude. 

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devin416 replied...
Jun. 9, 2013 at 3:29 pm

being bi myself, when people come up and ask me it really hurts me in fact. some poeple dont care becuase they have completley accepted themselves for who they are. There are other though that have not. i fall into the latter catagory. ive been comint to terms with it ever so slowly but it still hurts when people ask. Its majorly rude, and ignorant. some people may seem like it but arent you never know. and you never know that if you ask someone that might snap. i did once.  i almost..well you know "left the world" you could say. you never know how close someone is to the breaking point. never ask unless youve known this person for a long time and are close to them. it doesnt affect us as much that way. thanks if any of oyu actually read this whole comment..

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Paulski replied...
Jan. 14, 2014 at 1:06 pm

That's true, but sometimes, if you're close friends, then it's okay to ask, just so you'd kind of know. I mean, if only to be scensitive. Or this gem of a situation that happened to me. I had this friend (still do) and this other friend. Both female. One of them, I knew she was a lesbian, and she told me that if I know any other lesbians that I think would be compatible to introduce the two of them. This other friend of mine, I had suspicions but I never really asked because it wasn't any of my business. But I asked because we were close friends and I told her the situation and she said "Oh yeah, I totally am" and I introduced the two of them. They've been dating for the past four years.

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