Everything we say is true :P though, with the topic, it's not exactly a good thing that it's all true. :/ And yeah, people do that. It's really not hard to hide a cut, i should know, i mean my friend did it one time....then there's my other friend who's got the scars all over his arms in plain sight...*sighs* :(
I had a friend who used to cut and she didn't hide the cuts but she just said told the people who she didn't want to know what it actually was that they were just scratches that she got from falling on blacktop and everyone believed her.
Of course they did. People believe anything. Everyone needs to be a little more observing. I would think that if someone kept seeing constant cuts on someone else, and there was always an excuse, that they'd get even the slightest bit suspicious. I mean, cutting is a serious issue. It shouldnt be ignored.
I agree. Finally, me and the other people she told got her to stop, but she wasn't happy about us pressing her into stopping. It was the only way though. Do you think there's another way to get people to stop cutting other than just telling them again and again to stop?
It's understandable that she wasn't happy. I mean i guess it was her way of dealing with whatever she was dealing with, and then that's taken away from her....not that it shouldn't have been. There are better ways to deal with things rather than self-harm. And there's definitely a way...we just need to figure out what that way is. I know one other semi-effective way is to tell the person, "If you cut yourself again, i'll take a [-insert sharp object here-] to my wrist." Cuz if the cutter really cares about that person, they'll stop cuz they would never be able to deal with knowing they caused that person to hurt themselves. But then that's also defective, cuz then the cutter can just hide the cuts :/ but it works on some people.
Oh, and telling someone again and again to stop is a good way, cuz if the cutter really thinks about it, then if a lot of people are constantly telling them to stop cutting themselves, that means that those people really care. And that just might be the cutter's reasons for self-harm...they think that no one cares. I knew someone one time that had nine cuts on her hand, NINE, and what did her friends do? One didnt care, and the other called her immature. So did the cutting stop soon after? Nope. Because no one acted like they cared.
That's awful, that no one cared! I guess that was probably part of the problem. Another way someone brought to my friend is to write the name of someone you love on your hand/wrist/wherever-you-are-cutting and so they feel like they are hurting that person by cutting. It is only somewhat affective though. I think your idea is better.
I heard of something similar to that called the butterfly project, basically drawing butterflies and naming them after people who want you to stop cutting.
I think that people just believe a person without thinking deeper about it because the topic is basically taboo, if you know what I mean. Once this one girl asked about some scratches a friend had on her arm and she asked if it was "from a cat," you know, the typical excuse and someone else believe it too. It's crazy what people will believe.
Iamme11: Yes, that was a HUGE part of the problem. And oh that's a pretty good idea too. Neither of our ideas can be better than the other; i think each one works on a different type of person. And i know another idea :p the same girl that had the nine cuts on her hand, she was still a cutter up to last winter break. She has this friend who really cares about her and is an ex-cutter, thanks to her. So you know what he did to try and help keep her from cutting herself over break? On her arm, he wrote, "I love you." So that every time she went to cut herself, on her arm or her palm, she'd have to read that he loves her, and it would make her stop. She couldn't bear to hurt him (he's the same person who told her, "If you cut yourself again, i'll take a knife to my wrist.") And she hasn't cut herself ever since.
SmileThroughItAll: thats an interesting and cool idea, it reminds me of The Butterfly Foundation.
Yeah, the cat excuse is pretty popular. The same girl i was talking about up there^ used the cat excuse one time. And of course everyone believed her too. :[
I think that's a good idea. Writing "I love you" on their arm... By the way, what is the Butterfly Foundation?
I dont really have time to explain it so i'm just going to copy/paste things from the website lol (you can also go to the website if you want, just search "The Butterfly Foundation" in Google :P)
Mission: "The Butterfly Foundation is dedicated to bringing about change to the culture, policy and practice in the prevention, treatment and support of those affected by eating disorders and negative body image."
What They Do: "The Butterfly Foundation provides support for Australians who suffer from eating disorders and negative body image issues and their carers." But i guess it can be for people who arent Australian too...
Ok. That's interesting...
Mmhmm...you didn't sound all too enthusiastic XD ;)
Oh yeah, I guess I've heard of that too. Though I personally don't think that it would help as much with eating disordered people, if it is what the "butterfly project" is, which it probably is.
I'm a cutter. But, I'll only admit that on here. I hide all of my cuts. They're on my ankle (beneath my sock) and beneath my bikini line. No one ever sees them. I've told my boyfriend and my best friend. I used to cut and a few people knew. Then, I stopped..and I've recently started again worse than ever. I definantly don't do it for the attention. I do my best not to cut bad enough to leave scars...but I have them anyways. Cutting is more of a control thing. I know when I cut, I'm in control. It's also a comfort. It releases anger, sadness, and frustration. You all are probably thinking I'm crazy...but if you met me, you'd never guess something's wrong. I do the whole Butterfly Program thingy...some days I have butterflies all over my hands and thigh (we have to wear skirts to my school), but it helps me. They all get named after my boyfriend, and every time I cut my boyfriend does so also. It's the only thing that stops me. I value his life, health, and safety over my own so yeah...
ImperfectPerfection: I wasn't going to actually say this myself but...yeah , me too, I cut. Though I'm different from you because I don't really care as much who sees unless it's my mom or dad. I like scars, mostly when they are in a pattern that I like, for example not long ago I did a series of x's on my wrist and I thought it was pretty. I only like to cut on my wrist or ankles, because of the type of flesh there; I won't really get into that too much. And I most definitely understand the control thing. Because I used to starve, but after therapy I'm all better. I cut instead. It's just not as often.
Strange how even to people we may never meet, we are so secretive. I cut occasionally. Not really cutting...I scratch myself with pins until I bleed. And I have a question that's been bothering me for a long time. What is wrong with cutting? No one has bothered to cut themselves for me (not that I think they should. I dont want anyone to hurt themselves for me) but a lot of people have told me to stop. But they have no reason to tell me to stop. So is there a reason?
hey...you know that girl i was talking about before...the one who used to cut....yeah...she's me. :/
(gonna respond more l8tr)
actually....same with me....