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EmmaNemma posted this thread...
May 13, 2012 at 7:07 pm

Should there be a balence between being too conservative about talking about sex but also being too open about it. I know alot of marketing that has begun to target younger girls in ways that have to do with sex appeal. I wonder if the way our society has changed so that it's so open about sex has also changed the ways that younger teens, both girls and boys, feel about themselves and what's expected of them. Discuss.

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Shade56 replied...
Jun. 13, 2012 at 1:10 pm

I don't think people should stop talking about it I think the media should stop glamourizing it. the simple fact is it's overated. 

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Dandelion_burdock replied...
Jun. 13, 2012 at 9:51 pm

Compared to previous decades, sex has become a lot less taboo, which I think is a good thing. Sex isn't dirty or shameful- it's a natural human activity that most everyone will take part in eventually. However, the way society uses sex is an entirely differnent matter. To say that the loss of stigma sex now has is affecting teen minds... I don't agree with that. It is the businesses, people, campaigns that manipulate the human body to sell things, ideas, etc. that are entirely to blame, as well as the people who go along with it.

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AnimaCordis replied...
Jun. 14, 2012 at 11:47 am

It used to be, ages go yes, that girls would get married as soon as they started their pe.roid. This is not a new thing, at all. I don't personally beleive that the media should bear the burnt of the blame for this one. Media reflects socity, so this s.exualisation problem is one of society. 

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Aug. 21, 2012 at 4:32 pm

I have to agree with Shade on this one, for the most part anyway. Just that it's overated. I think that people should learn about it and the risks that come with it, and feel more comfortable asking questions. But I also think having the media glamourize it (to use Shade's words again) is not so good.

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sorla replied...
Aug. 21, 2012 at 6:25 pm

Human and animals are very horny creatures. We think with our instincts and hormones a lot. While the media has been known for glamorizing sex, and exposing younger children to sex, I don't think it's entirely to blame. There have been some girls and boys I've known over the years, myself included, that have become victims of child abuse. It's not like the media influenced us to have sex really young, or even sell ourselves, it was desperation. I have no sympathy for the teenage girls that wear revealing clothing and hook up with seniors after having to much to drink, because at least they are consenting. Some people never get that choice. Sex actually is one of the best things in the world. It's right up there with sunshine, happiness, and love. It makes sense that that's all we talk about.

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sorla replied...
Aug. 21, 2012 at 6:40 pm

Human and animals are very hor.ny creatures. We think with our instincts and horm.ones a lot. While the media has been known for glamorizing se.x, and exposing younger children to se.x, I don't think it's entirely to blame. There have been some girls and boys I've known over the years, myself included, that have become victims of child abuse. It's not like the media influenced us to have se.x really young, or even sell ourselves, it was desperation. I have no sympathy for the teenage girls that wear revealing clothing and hook up with random guys after having to much to drink, because at least they are con.senting. I don't care if the media influenced them do it something. Some people never get that choice. Se.x actually is one of the best things in the world. It's right up there with sunshine, happiness, and love. It makes sense that that's all we talk about. (Man, I tried to post this three times, this censoring is such an inconvenience.)
 

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JubilexThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Aug. 21, 2012 at 7:43 pm

There's so many problems with the modern social elements of se.x. The one people always latch onto is the media, and how they 1) over-galmourise se.x and 2) how they se.xualise people and things (not just young girls, but this is the most common one looked at). I agree that this is a problem, but it's not the only one.
 
Se.x education in many schools isn't that great. We all learn about this body part going into that body part and that's how inter.course works, and that we should use protection, but that's pretty much it. The amount of women that don't understand how their bodies work is nuts. Men can grasp the ideas a lot easier, because for them, it's usually pretty simple. But women have been shoved into this box where their female se.xuality is suppressed. And so people don't really talk about female se.xuality anymore. I'm not talking about ga.y, straight, etc, I'm talking about se.x in relation to the female body.
 
How many young women actually know how a female or.gasm is achieved? We're lead to just assume that it occurs during inter.course (and the media teaches us this too, in films, tv, etc.), but that's true only for some women. Most women don't feel pleasure from inter.course alone. Now can you imagine how awkward this would be for a young women, going for her first time, and both her and her partner (men are generally less educated about this than women) can't understand why she doesn't feel pleasure. The women feels like something is wrong with her and the man feels inadequate (obviously not a same se.x situation, but there can be problems there too, depending). And this is all from lack of education. This is because young women are taught to suppress their se.xual sides.
 
I don't think se.x should be "hyped up" like it is in the media, but I don't think people should be ashamed of it, or suppress it. I don't mean that everyone should talk about their se.xual experiences, because it's a private thing, but I don't think people should be so closed off about talking about se.x in general. And I think schools should have a more positive approach to se.xual education. 

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TheKing replied...
Aug. 29, 2012 at 11:29 pm

"the simple fact is it's overated."
 
Buddy... you just wait.
 
To keep it clean, nature had to find a way for humans to want to procreate.  It did a d4mn fine job.

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TheKing replied...
Aug. 29, 2012 at 11:29 pm

"the simple fact is it's overated."
 
Buddy... you just wait.
 
To keep it clean, nature had to find a way for humans to want to procreate.  It did a d4mn fine job.

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An-eloquent-leafThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Aug. 30, 2012 at 10:39 pm

Haha Alex you crack me up XD

Anyway, I basically agree with Jubilex. In some ways, society seems to glamorize sėx, but in others, it's almost taboo. Personally, I think that even if you don't think having īnterçourse before marriage is "bad," you or your partner should at least use birth control – if a baby should come of it, the costs and problems of raising a child out of wedlock are just too great (I mention costs because I don't know anyone who had a baby out of wedlock and meant for that to happen. Us kids are quite expensive to raise, anyway ;) )

Also, schools seriously need better sėx ed. The only things I remember from that unit was in Africa, there are female cōndoms with spikes to help prevent rāpe. Everything I know now about the topic I learned either from the Internet or awkward conversations with parents (which brings me to another point: parents should truly be responsible for teaching their kids this stuff. I mean, they had kids, so it's not like they're vìrgins or anything.)

(But I digress.)

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An-eloquent-leafThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Aug. 30, 2012 at 10:41 pm

Haha Alex you crack me up XD

Anyway, I basically agree with Jubilex. In some ways, society seems to glamorize s.ėx, but in others, it's almost taboo. Personally, I think that even if you don't think having īnte.rçou.rse before marriage is "bad," you or your partner should at least use bi.rth co.ntrol – if a baby should come of it, the costs and problems of raising a child out of we.dlo.ck are just too great (I mention costs because I don't know anyone who had a baby out of we.dlo.ck and meant for that to happen. Us kids are quite expensive to raise, anyway ;) )

Also, schools seriously need better sė.x ed. The only things I remember from that unit was in Africa, there are female cōndo.ms with spikes to help prevent rā.p.e. Everything I know now about the topic I learned either from the Internet or awkward conversations with parents (which brings me to another point: parents should truly be responsible for teaching their kids this stuff. I mean, they had kids, so it's not like they're vìrgins or anything.)

(But I digress.)

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tdnarb replied...
Aug. 31, 2012 at 3:01 pm

The problem that I am seeing more and more in our society is that as the frequency of s.ex increases, the frequency of real love decreases.  In simple terms, love can no longer be determined from l.ust.  Couples all the time will say "I love you" after a couple weeks of intimate relations.  You cannot possibly know if you "love" somebody in that amount of time.

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mesocraticParalian replied...
Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:28 pm

We need to find a balance between glamorizing it and not talking about it at all. Teenagers aren't being properly educated in it. Then the media makes it seem like the best thing ever which influences some teenagers into doing it. This can cause incurable stds and pregnancy. The media presents sex as a rite of passage to adulthood: you're not a fullfledged adult or mature or worthy of respect unless you've had sex. Guys feel like they have to to be manly or whatever (I really shouldn't talk for guys though because I'm not one,) and girls do it for emotional acceptance. It's a trainwreck. :|

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CollinF replied...
Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:54 pm

sorla:
 
Bologna. Visit a monastery or a Conservative Muslim nation instead of an American public school and you'll see humanity's potential to transcend base instinct.
 
Alex:
 
Hahahahahaha. I didn't have you labeled as a playa. She just couldn't resist your refined charm, huh?

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CollinF replied...
Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:57 pm

S.ex used to be treated as a taboo topic because it was viewed as sacred. Something which should be reserved for a person you understood and loved more than any other. We've cheapened it. American s.ex is like American food.

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Breece6This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jan. 15, 2013 at 7:06 am

Kinda weird for Collin to bump up an old thread like this, maybe he was browsing and it was late :P
 
Regardless, I'll take the bait :)
 
I think modern society has placed a much heavier emphasis on it than any society ever has before, I'm not sure whether that's necessarily a bad thing or not though.  
 
"American s.ex is like American food", so true, in so many ways.

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Mar. 22, 2013 at 11:13 pm

Why is everyone so prudish about se.x? I just don't get it, everyone has se.x, it feels amazing. Our specie's survival depends on se.x, it's not a big deal. Some people have a lot of se.x with different people, some people only have se.x with one person. It's a part of life, just like death and birth. Get over it. 

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RarelyJadedThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Mar. 24, 2013 at 10:30 pm

I don't think you can be "too open" about se.x. The reason a lot of young girls are having se.x at earlier ages, is because parents are afraid to talk about it! It's completely ridiculous. As if se.x didn't come from God in the first place.

Girls and boys feel as if they are expected to "have fun, party, and have se.x." Definitely. Why is this wrong? Why shouldn't people be allowed to have se.x whenever they want, with whoever they want?

Because se.x isn't just key to the continuation of the human race. There are emotions involved, and lives at stake--literally. It's a privelege and a responsiblity to have sex.

Yet society hates that word--responsibility. At the same time, se.x is probably the most sacred thing given to us, and the thing that requires to most responsiblity. It is the ability to create life! Why should we not regulate that?

As Uncle Ben says, "With great power comes great responsibility."

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RarelyJadedThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Mar. 24, 2013 at 10:30 pm

 


I don't think you can be "too open" about se.x. The reason a lot of young girls are having se.x at earlier ages, is because parents are afraid to talk about it! It's completely ridiculous. As if se.x didn't come from God in the first place. 


 


Girls and boys feel as if they are expected to "have fun, party, and have se.x." Definitely. Why is this wrong? Why shouldn't people be allowed to have se.x whenever they want, with whoever they want? 


 


Because se.x isn't just key to the continuation of the human race. There are emotions involved, and lives at stake--literally. It's a privelege and a responsiblity to have se.x.


 


Yet society hates that word--responsibility. At the same time, se.x is probably the most sacred thing given to us, and the thing that requires to most responsiblity. It is the ability to create life! Why should we not regulate that? 


 


As Uncle Ben says, "With great power comes great responsibility."
 

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