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silvermist98 posted this thread...
Mar. 28, 2012 at 10:07 am

Every year many kids are bullyied in school. share your experiences or if you have seen someone being bullied here.

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sorla replied...
Mar. 28, 2012 at 10:21 am

Ugh, I used to get bullied so much. By boys, girls, older kids, my parents, everyone. I guess the craziest experiences I've ever had with a bully was once when I was cornered in the locker room by these girls who got bussed in from Brockton. They were black and they always made fun of me for my afro, but I think the real reason they hated me was because I am blonde and I wasn't intimidated by them. There were three girls and I knew they were planning on having one of them hold me while the others beat me up, so I took out my knife and scared them off. I got suspended for it, so when on of the girls was getting on the bus, I dragged her down the steps by her hair and smashed her head on the pavement. I was already suspended, so I figured whatever, why not take a stand and show them I wouldn't put up with it anymore. I knocked three of her teeth out and broke her nose. I almost had to go to court, but it was worth it. And then when I was in fourth grade, this high schooler victimized me constantly. He would follow me on my way home and harass me, and when I told him to leave me alone and told my mom about him, he got violent. He beat me up so bad one time I had to crawl up my front steps. That was the first time I started carrying around a knife and I'm glad I did, because it has saved my life. That boy made me to scared to walk alone and leave the house by myself. Bullies are pathetic human beings, and I've learned the best way to deal with them is outdo them. Some people claim that you need to ignore them or get help, but it doesn't work with violent bullies, it shows weakness. People need to stick up for themselves, telling on someone will solve the problem for a little while, but if you make them afraid of you, you will never have a problem again. Because I couldn't defend myself against that boy, I had my cousin jump him and the problem went away. My cousin beat that kid to a pulp, and it worked better then any restraining order could.

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LandOfDarknessThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Mar. 29, 2012 at 9:25 am

I don't get bullied at all now, but I used to a lot. Sixth grade was the worst. People called me "gross" and there was one particular boy who loved to pick on my best friend and I. He called us obscene things like "weird", and whenever he walked by us he'd be like "ewww". He made fun of our clothes and hair, too. Though I'm out of it now, bullying can stick with you and leave scars. The year after I was bullied, I became very antisocial and began to dress in all black clothes. ...I'm still that way today, actually. But when I put my makeup on and look at myself in the mirror nowadays, I think, "Wow, I'm beautiful." Just shake off bullies. They're not even worth it. They just tease others because they don't feel good about the way they are or look.

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human6 replied...
Mar. 29, 2012 at 8:23 pm

Bullies are a product of a system that rewards the worst and most violent.

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silvercat replied...
Mar. 30, 2012 at 6:01 am

Well sometimes violence is needed but not always. I have been bullied in the past and still am a little today. However I have never brought violence into it.it is one thing if they through the first blow but if you do then get suspended is it worth it.? Is it worth it to get revenge but possibly mess up your own future? You may not get into the college you want to because of that suspension. Alot of bullies do what they do because they are jeolous of you.

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human6 replied...
Mar. 30, 2012 at 5:10 pm

I will resist the urge to say that government is violent inatly (dam it lol)

 

 

but our system reward teachers who are verbally abusive and domineering, while good teachers are fired. The kids in this system are messed up, and deep down they know it, so they take it out on others, what they call others is what they see in the mirror 

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human6 replied...
Mar. 30, 2012 at 5:10 pm

I will resist the urge to say that government is violent inatly (dam it lol)

 

 

but our system reward teachers who are verbally abusive and domineering, while good teachers are fired. The kids in this system are messed up, and deep down they know it, so they take it out on others, what they call others is what they see in the mirror 

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silvermist98 replied...
Apr. 3, 2012 at 3:07 pm

I must agree with you.many of the good teachers are fired.

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EPluribusUnumThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Apr. 9, 2012 at 4:00 pm

I used to be bullied a lot in middle school, up until I moved in 8th grade. It was mostly boys telling me all of the things that were wrong with me and blaming me for every little thing that went baddly, but the girls would join in too sometimes. And it all kinda blew up in one big incident about a week before the end of the school year. It was especially bad in gym, but it eventually spred to affect most of my life at school. I still can't get over it, and I haven't been back in two years. Last time I looked at one of my old yearbooks I got so freaked out I started hyperventalating. It was scary. And whenever I talk about my old school I start to shake. When I moved I pretty much stopped talking and singing and doing all of the other social activities I used to love. I'm only now starting to talk to my classmates voluntarily again. I feel like I've done a pretty good job of staying invisible here, but it gets lonely. I'm just afraid of being rejected like that again. The fear, the humiliation, the pain, those things scar. And the worst thing is I can't trust people anymore-not like I used to anyway. Half the time someone talks to me I start expecting insults, no matter how nice I know they are. I hate bullies. Hate HATE HATE them! And I'm really asking for it right now, because I'm pretty dead set on comming out and that's going to cause at least a little drama.

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hedwigy13 replied...
May 7, 2012 at 6:35 pm

I've been bullied for a long time. And no one is ever willing to say anything to my face. But I hear their whispers. I hear, and I hate it. I hate school now because of them. I'm failing my classes and I've become antisocial and depressed. I'm too afraid to tell anyone. I've never told anyone this, but I'm almost certain I'm transgender, so their petty anti-gay slurs really hurt. I'm not openly trans. As I said, I've never told anyone before. But it's so hard. And I'm stuck with them for another five years. Bullying sucks. There's this poster in the hallway that you could write on that asks you why you hate bullying. No one ever wrote on it. Until I took a big sharpie marker and wrote on it, "Bullying sucks. It's not only like hell, it is hell. And why should someone be sent there just for being themselves?" No one ever figured out I wrote the message there, but to this very day it remains the only one.

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CollinF replied...
May 7, 2012 at 8:24 pm

I went through a stage in Middle School where I was pretty mean to a lotta kids. Nothing physical or anything, I would just do what I called "messin with em." Then, one day, I realized I was bein a jerk, apologized, and befriended the guys. I'll tell ya right now, the difference turning one enemy into a good friend can do for someone is remarkable. It taught me valuable lessons and helped bring them outta the viscious circle they were in of people bein jerks to em and them havin to respond.

 

The way you treat people really does make a difference in the world. It changes them and it changes you. Don't let that go to waste.

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EPluribusUnumThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
May 8, 2012 at 9:41 pm

Nicely put Collin. Most people don't realize that bullying is just an ugly cycle and if you can pull even one person out of it-even if that person is yourself by not bullying-you can save a lot of people a lot of pain. I was picked on for beng weak, but I know I am strong because whatever I do I make sure not to add to the cycle. It's the right thing to do. Good for you for pulling out of that.

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AnimaCordis replied...
May 9, 2012 at 2:05 am

I've been on both sides of it. When i was young, my best friend and I would run away from this other girl. We would hide and pretend our phones were broken when she tried to call us. At the time I knew it was bad, but I viewed it as 'the lesser of two evils' because it was better then pretending to be her friend and like her. 

 

I've been teased lots at school, and I still am. I don't tease people very much, but I can say some pretty horrible things to sometimes. It's not that I judge people in the usual way, it's just if I decide someome is mean I won't think before I speak to them. It's definatly one of my flaws -_-.

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silvermist98 replied...
May 15, 2012 at 6:08 am

If you hide then you're letting the bullies win.get out there and enjoy yourself

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elandsiedelThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 26, 2012 at 9:45 am

I was bullied a lot as a kid and still am,  I even had to switch middle schools because I couldnt take it anymore.  Recently life was so hard and I had a headache and pills in my bag.  At SCHOOL, I took some of them and had to go to the hospital and a psychiatric facility.  I was then hated for overdosing to "get attention" Which was OBVIOUSLY NOT the case.  I used to get mean looks and texts and no one would hang out with me or attempt to get to know me.  I was just that girl that everyone hated.  I think bullying is one of the biggest causes of suicidal thoughts and actions.  It is horrible what goes on in schools these days, and the teachers dont even care.  Now I am Changing schools for a THIRD time because of bullying.  If you are being bullied, abused, or harassed in any way, PLEASE tell someone you can trust, such as a counseler, parent, or other adult.  I definitley WOULD NOT recommend taking matters into your own hands because you could be the one to get caught instead of the bully.  I RECOMMEND TO EVERYONE the movie, The Fat Boy Chronicles, it really gives you an inside look and helps you understand why bullying is one of the leading causes of suicidal Thoughts and actions.

 

Good Luck Everyone and remember:TELL SOMEONE YOU TRUST,

 

elandsiedel

Email me with questions or teen counseling help because I am a teen counseler and am pursuing that job as a career.

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Falling.Up.This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jul. 24, 2012 at 9:23 pm

i was called lesbian, and there were rumours that i was a sl..ut... it may not seem like much, but it hurts, you know? one of my best friends is gay, and he's been bullied, but he liked this one guy and he liked him back.. well, his crush needed help, and my friend said he would be there, but he didnt get there soon enough... and he killed himself....

please, stop bullying!! it kills people, literally! it ruins their lives! :'( bullying is not okay...

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stallionpride56 replied...
Aug. 9, 2012 at 8:50 am

i HATED elementary. actually the fifth grade, when i moved to Oakcliff in the middle of the school year. it sucked right from the begining. i was literally the only white kid in my class, im not racist but they were. i tried making friends with them, i really did try. my first day there i was being called bad names and other stuff. i thought thats all they were going to do, no biggie, i thought i could handle that. then as the weeks went by i would get the crap beat out of me behind portables after school, then i stared getting chased home, then it got to were i didnt want to go to school. i told teacher after teacher, they said that they couldnt do anything about it. my parents were worried sick. one time i took a few days off school, then when i went back the same thing happened. only the beatings were more painful. they started beating me with sticks and throughing rocks at me, thats when the teacher finally saw them, and sent me to the nurses office. that day i went home with my white polo covered in blood, bloody nose, bruises, deep scratches on my arms, and so much more. and when they were asked why they did what they did, they said that day didnt like my skin color. all of that pain, BECAUSE I WAS WHITE!

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