Ok so here is my problem. Ever since I was a little girl I've been terrified of the dark. Like I see things in it and I feel as if something is out to get me. It doesn't even make sense because honestly I know nothing is there, and I'll tell myself over and over nothing is there but I still become panicked and my body seems to shake, sometimes even locks up.
I'd be going from my room to the one across our loft and I have to turn on a light just to walk across. I don't know why I'm so scared. My aunt says its uncalled for and dumb. And I have to admit it is, but still something inside me says: DANGER!!!!
I feel crazy at times because for a while I went without sleeping with a night light on and now I can't. I'm 2 months shy of being 16 and I'm completely terrified of the dark...
Is something wrong with me? Is this just a natural fear? Or is this something else? A phobia maybe? Please help me...
I am in the same boat. Though I have a reason for my fear. I sorta messed with some stuff when I was younger and foud a old deck of tarot cards in the woods and.... Anyway! So what? It doesn't really matter, many of us actually have this fear. I mean its a natural thing to be afraid of the unknown. And what's more unknown than the dark?
(I sleep with the lights on and a face mask. So yea... )
Fears like this are completely irrational for me, i mean there's not really a way you can stop from this. My friend has severe fear of the dark to the point she has panic attacks... I'm the same way with thunder. terrifying...
There's a few good theories behind why phobias exist. There's one that I know of.
The panic response in most people is over sensitive. The main idea is that it's far better for you to panic over something that's harmless, than to not panic over something that's dangerous. As a result, your panic system will activate even with things that aren't actually dangerous, so that when something dangerous does come up, you'll always get a panic response, which is beneficial to preserve your safety.
I used to be pretty afraid of the dark when I was a bit younger, and I still get a little frightened at times. It's a common fear. It's a problem when it stops you from being able to do things (so if you became so scared that you couldn't sleep, etc).
Thanks you guys. I just wish my aunt was more understanding.
One of my sisters is afraid of the barn. That's not exactly rational, is it? Fear isn't really something you can control. Sometimes you can control how you act around it, but you can't always make it go away. I sued to be afraid of the tank room in my house. I thought there were evil mice and monsters in there. I also used to be afraid of the dark. I think most of my siblings were. Me, two of my sisters, and one of my brothers used to all share the same bedroom, and we'd lay awake for hours if someone forgot to close the closet. None of us wanted to actually get up and close it. My brother would actually pay me to close it sometimes.
I realized something a few years ago: If i'm ever afraid of something harmless, I go do it/be around it. I used to be terrified of jumping off of high things (I've never been afraid of hights, I love them. I was just afraid of jumping.). So, I started jumping out of trees, off rooftops, etc. I don't even hesitate now, even though my ankles twist really easily.
Ignore your aunt. It doesn't really matter what she thinks. I still sleep with all my stuffed animals, and I won't let my mom get rid of my dolls, even though I haven't played with them in a long time. I don't care what people think about that, even though some might see it as "babyish."