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TeenInk "I'm a firm believer in Karma." - Emma Watson in Sofia Coppola's The Bling Ring featured at Cannes Film Festival... http://t.co/AtwVoR8xyT
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TeenInk "If I fall asleep with a pen in my hand, don't remove it — I might be writing in my dreams." http://t.co/0FUP7fyJcB
I found out in September that I was due to have a baby. I'm only 14 and it's really changed a lot of things in my life. I've been coping with school the best I can, it's been difficult because I'm in all advanced classes. But I think the really difficult part about school is seeing the looks I get and hearing the whispers as if I can't hear them. My baby boy is due in March and I'm going to name him Micah Lane. The fathers name is also Micah. I've been worried that he won't be there for the birth of his first child. His dad is making it hard for him. He moved Micah away, and they were living in a camper with no toilet or fridge and I keep begging Micah to come stay with me. He doesn't deserve this and I just want my child to have a father.
First of all, CONGRATULATIONS!! I know having a baby this early probably wasn't very high on your To-Do List, but you can't undo what has already been done. For now, the only thing you can do is make sure that your baby has a smooth transition into your family's life. If the father, Micah, wants to be a part of his son's life, then that's amazing. Not many guys who impregnate teens want to stick around for the birth of their kid......keeping up with your school work is going to be SUPER difficult, but seriously, keep trying. It'll be so much better for you in the long run if you continue with your studies. I dont know about your High School, but mine has a few programs for pregnant teens. It's sort of like a tutoring session where they help you deal with your pregnancy while continuing with school. Find out if your school has that; it'll really help :)
Well he's going to have to have some interaction since he'll be paying child support. I feel that you and your parent(s) should probably have a get together with his dad and talk out the situation. You are still a child yourself and should be given a chance just the same as the father of your child. Micah's father is probably being hard on him because of his expectations or that he may have done the same thing in his youth.
First of all, *hugs* I am VERY happy that you plan to keep your baby. :)
Second, how does the father feel about this? Does he want to be a part of the child's life? If he does, I think you should both talk to his father. You are practically a child yourself, but if you're having a baby, you're going to need to grow up faster, and make more important decisions. Micah's dad needs to understand that, and he should be helping you guys.
No matter what happens with Micah's dad, or your own parents, or Micah, the baby needs to know he's loved. Always. If you ever need any help or advice, don't hesitate to ask. I have some expierience with babies and little kids, so I might be able to help.
Good luck, and God bless you. :)
I know it must have been hard to choose to keep your baby--but I immensely respect your decision to do so. As for the father... if your parents know what's best for the child, they'll let him see the baby. Micah's parents can't legally keep him away, can they? At least you know when he turns eighteen you guys are free to be a family. So in that case, keep up with your studies so you can support one another--it'll be hard but you can do it. I'll pray for you and your family :) Congratulations on your baby boy. What are you going to name him?
P.s. Pay no attention to immature teens at school. They don't have a right to judge you. Keep your head held high. xoxo
I went through same my sons now 2 and a half i was 14 too and scared outta my mind but now im a happy mom its hard but it gets easier dont let people judge you i still get looks but i lift my head high and stare back :D nobody has the right to judge *big hug no worries if you even need help or advice im here for you
i have a greind that is pregnat and her boyfreind left her
pshaw those people have no right to judge you
i respect your openness on the topic its not easy to let a bunch of random internet strangers judge you :D
CONGRATS!!! also as for school, i'm in online school and there is a lot of teen mothers that do it, (i'm not a parent:) they say that it is way better because no one can judge you because they never see you! and it is so true!
-PB;)
i'm fourteen too, and i know how hard it is anyways, without adding any other stress. But remember that your baby is a gift, and as long as you love him, you and him will do fine. it's gonna be rough sometimes, but you can work at it and give your child the best life he can have. Congrats!!
