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glamingirl10 posted this thread...
Feb. 5, 2013 at 1:52 pm

I found out in September that I was due to have a baby. I'm only 14 and it's really changed a lot of things in my life. I've been coping with school the best I can, it's been difficult because I'm in all advanced classes. But I think the really difficult part about school is seeing the looks I get and hearing the whispers as if I can't hear them. My baby boy is due in March and I'm going to name him Micah Lane. The fathers name is also Micah. I've been worried that he won't be there for the birth of his first child. His dad is making it hard for him. He moved Micah away, and they were living in a camper with no toilet or fridge and I keep begging Micah to come stay with me. He doesn't deserve this and I just want my child to have a father.

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Feb. 8, 2013 at 2:25 pm

First of all, CONGRATULATIONS!! I know having a baby this early probably wasn't very high on your To-Do List, but you can't undo what has already been done. For now, the only thing you can do is make sure that your baby has a smooth transition into your family's life. If the father, Micah, wants to be a part of his son's life, then that's amazing. Not many guys who impregnate teens want to stick around for the birth of their kid......keeping up with your school work is going to be SUPER difficult, but seriously, keep trying. It'll be so much better for you in the long run if you continue with your studies. I dont know about your High School, but mine has a few programs for pregnant teens. It's sort of like a tutoring session where they help you deal with your pregnancy while continuing with school. Find out if your school has that; it'll really help :)

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Sakuya replied...
Feb. 10, 2013 at 7:35 pm

Well he's going to have to have some interaction since he'll be paying child support. I feel that you and your parent(s) should probably have a get together with his dad and talk out the situation. You are still a child yourself and should be given a chance just the same as the father of your child. Micah's father is probably being hard on him because of his expectations or that he may have done the same thing in his youth.

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Feb. 14, 2013 at 10:30 pm

First of all, *hugs* I am VERY happy that you plan to keep your baby. :)
Second, how does the father feel about this? Does he want to be a part of the child's life? If he does, I think you should both talk to his father. You are practically a child yourself, but if you're having a baby, you're going to need to grow up faster, and make more important decisions. Micah's dad needs to understand that, and he should be helping you guys.
No matter what happens with Micah's dad, or your own parents, or Micah, the baby needs to know he's loved. Always. If you ever need any help or advice, don't hesitate to ask. I have some expierience with babies and little kids, so I might be able to help.
Good luck, and God bless you. :)

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RarelyJaded replied...
Mar. 23, 2013 at 7:08 pm

I know it must have been hard to choose to keep your baby--but I immensely respect your decision to do so. As for the father... if your parents know what's best for the child, they'll let him see the baby. Micah's parents can't legally keep him away, can they? At least you know when he turns eighteen you guys are free to be a family. So in that case, keep up with your studies so you can support one another--it'll be hard but you can do it. I'll pray for you and your family :) Congratulations on your baby boy. What are you going to name him?
P.s. Pay no attention to immature teens at school. They don't have a right to judge you. Keep your head held high. xoxo

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zombieslayer22 replied...
Apr. 1, 2013 at 11:07 am

I went through same my sons now 2 and a half i was 14 too  and scared outta my mind but now im a happy mom its hard but it gets easier dont let people judge you i still get looks but i lift my head high and stare back :D nobody has the right to judge *big hug no worries if you even need help or advice im here for you

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15silleman replied...
Apr. 19, 2013 at 2:43 pm

i have a greind that is pregnat and her boyfreind left her

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Childofthemind replied...
Apr. 20, 2013 at 2:31 am

pshaw those people have no right to judge you 
i respect your openness on the topic its not easy to let a bunch of random internet strangers judge you :D

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packerbacker12 replied...
May 14, 2013 at 4:44 pm

CONGRATS!!! also as for school, i'm in online school and there is a lot of teen mothers that do it, (i'm not a parent:) they say that it is way better because no one can judge you because they never see you! and it is so true!

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christina96 replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 10:00 am

Don't worry about having a baby at fourteen because my birth mom was only two years older than you when she had me, seventeen when she had my first brother, eighteen when she had my second brother and twenty when she had my last brother. So, I know it is going to be hard but I know that if you keep going and show your son when he is old enough to understand that even though you have baby when you are very young; you can show him that no matter what you can always have a future that might help you getting money to take care of your son;then you can show that if you work hard you can do anything.
REMEMBER: I've lived through teen pregnancy. You can do it just believe in yourself and do what's best for your son and his future.
If you need any more advice or help on what to do then just send me reply or comment and I will do my best to answer you in anyway I can.
You can do it,

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Joey R. replied...
Sept. 5, 2013 at 12:58 am

Wow... Just wow. I can't believe how lucky your baby will be. To have a mother who will be able to keep up school, parenthood, and any other struggles in life, and still put on a happy face? That's amazing. Your child will always have you to look up to as the incredibly strong young woman you are and will always be, and he'll also love you a thousand times more than he already will; you're making all of these sacrifices for him and that's incredible. I hope everything with Micah will be sorted out; and through those struggles, you'll just become stronger and both you and Micah will learn more. Everything happens for a reason, and I believe that reason is the make your baby's life great; having two amazing parents will make his life fantastic and will only make yours and Micah's lives better. I see that you'd started being pregnant 12 months ago, so I assume you've given birth already. I'd love to follow up with you and help you out if you need it. I'm 14, too, so I'll hopefully be able to relate to some of your problems, although I'm sure there'd be some I can't understand, not being in your situation. I would still love to help, though, and I know I can if you need it. If you would like talk with me, reply to this message and I'll send you my email. Best wishes,
Joey R.

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AnInkling replied...
Sept. 18, 2013 at 12:27 pm

Just so that you know: I admire you. Just by seeing your post, I can tell how much you already love your baby, and that is much more than many adult women can say. 
While many people today would say that you are to young, Jesus' mother was about your age when she had Him (I don't know if you are a Christian or not, but as a Christian, I greatly respect Jesus' mother Mary). Also my grandmother had my uncle and mother both in high school, and she is one of the most wonderful woman I know. 
I will be praying for you and for the father to be able to be with you and your baby. But keep strong! (Once again I don't know if you are a Christian or not, but I just want to encourage you) But we have a verse that says that God only give you "trials" which you can handle, so you must be a very strong woman! 
I hope you have a beautiful day!

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JulietTiernan replied...
Oct. 1, 2013 at 7:32 pm

awwww congratulations darlin!
1: thank you for keeping your baby! adoption wouldve been a good thing too but keeping him shows you have got to be one tough and loving girl. the fact that you love him is gonna make his life so wonderful and your life easier.
2: I`m so sorry that people are so judgemental and mean
3: It`s gonna be ona the hardest things to finish school but please hun do it. no matter how bad things get. if you can`t stay in public school do homeschool.
4: If Micah wants to be a part of your baby`s life sooner or later he`ll find a way. either he`ll convince his father to let him or you`ll have to wait til his father can`t really do anything about it.  if your parents understand maybe they can help his.
best of luck and congratulations again <3

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nikki1 replied...
Oct. 10, 2013 at 2:50 pm

first and for most congrats on the new baby. i honestly have to say that i went thru the same thing. however i s=didnt have the choice of getting to keep it.......your stong and stay strong. dont let what people say bring you down....ok..

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ramfthomas4 replied...
Oct. 20, 2013 at 10:12 pm

i'll be praying for you, your baby and your boyfriend.
God bless!

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Dec. 6, 2015 at 7:57 am

First off I would like to day that I know that this is a really old forum, but I read it and I felt inspired to say something. I don't really know what though, other than I admire your perserverence. You're really strong for taking on motherhood so early. I hope you, Micah, and, well, Micah are doing well.

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MorganRF replied...
Feb. 17, 2016 at 1:23 pm

Same! I know I am late, but you have a lot of courage! I hope y'all are doing well and are happy and healthy.

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